everyone likes a chase, but no one likes desperate

I’ve had a little “crush” on this guy for almost five years now. We’ll call him Chett*. Before I go on with the story I feel you should know the background on him. He’s 17, and one of the shy guys when it comes to girls. Why? That’s what I can’t figure out. He’s super cute and hangs out with the popular crowd. Typical quater back, tall dark and handsome. Girls are always drowling over him, but yet he never has a girlfriend or acts like his interested in a girl. Yeah the first thing that comes to mind is “Oh he’s probably just gay.” The thing is, he dated this girl for a little over a year. She was his first real girlfriend. She treated him like crap, lied to him, and cheated on him, whenever he was the perfect boyfriend and gave her everything. He became tired of dealing with her and they ended things. That was almost two years ago, since then he hasn’t dated anyone. Sure, maybe she “hurt” him but isn’t it time to get over that? Or maybe he just doesn’t want to deal with a relationship. I mean he is always caught up in sports and hanging with his guy friends, but they all have girlfriends as well. Another thing, is although he’s a little hot shot at my school, he is very different from most guys. He’s not cocky, rude, or a “player”. In fact, he never randomly just “hooks up” with a girl, and on the brighter side he’s a virgin. He has great parents and they’ve raised him to be a kind guy. In my eyes, he’s basically perfect!

Now a little about me, I’m 16, one year and grade younger than Chett. I guess you could say I’m a little hot shot at my school as well. I’ve gotten homecoming court four years in a row, so far. The one year my grade was allowd to have a queen and I was chosen. I’m always voted friendlist, best dressed, and belle. So my self esteem is pretty good. I also was in a relationship for a little over a year and got cheated on, and haven’t dated since, just like Chett. I’ve liked other people and moved on just never officially “dated”, heres the catch, since I’ve gotten cheated on I don’t let my guard down with any guy. I end up being a bitch without meaning to, which have pushed a few guys away. I’m also a big flirt, and people take it that wrong way thinking I like every guy I flirt with, so that’s my little problem. I am a good girl, still a virgin and I don’t do random hook ups either. Basically we’re in the same boat. Chett and I have most of the same friends and hang out with the same people. So I know he knows who I am good and well. Although we hang with the same crowd, at school we hardly talk and walk past eachother like strangers. When we text its short talk and I have to text him first, which I hate doing because I feel annoying even though I’m not. I make sure I don’t blow up his phone so I’ll text him once a week, if that. I try to think of it as “Oh he just doesn’t know how to talk to girls” or “He doesn’t know how to act” because that’s what everyone tells me.

Anyway back to the main story, I’m pretty sure he’s aware of my little fling for him, almost everyone at my school is. I always consider him out of my league, whenever we’re basically in the same league together. Here comes the confusing part, we were at a party and we could not stop flirting with eachother. Later that night we hooked up “just making out and feeling on eachother” yeah that doesn’t sound so classy but the night was so… cute? We cuddled and talked for hours about so much. I felt I really connected with him. I fell alseep in his arms, thinking it was really an “11:11” wish come true. Considering this guy has been my crush for awhile I was shocked, happy, and my butterflies were going crazy! The next morning we still cuddled then we had to say or goodbyes. Everyone figured we’d start “talking” from there, and as much as I wish we would’ve we didn’t. The day was going by and I never got a text from him, so I decided just to text him first, like always. I didn’t want him to think I was so type of hoe, that did one night hook ups. So I texted him something like “How was church? Lol” kidding around because we didn’t go to sleep til 6 in the morning and he had to leave for church at nine. After I sent the text I got one from him saying “Katie whats up?” realizing we both texted eachother at the same time! All night we texted and everything seemed to be going good. At school he started making more eye contact with me and saying hey. Everyone started calling me “his girl” although I secretly loved it I was always quick to say “NO I’M NOT” acting like I had no interest. That’s where my bitch part comes in. After a week went by we went back to the normal barely talking over text. So I started thinking “Well hey, maybe he just doesn’t like texting? “ because at school he makes eye contact with me and in person everything seems fine. A friend of Chett has told me “We short talk yall to make yall want us more, duh don’t you know?” Maybe that’s the case? Or maybe he really just doesn’t have interest in me? I’ve heard from a few people that Chett has said “Oh she likes everyone” which I don’t but like I said when I flirt, people get the wrong impression. I have flirted with guys infront of Chett, but honestly I only to try and make him jealous. I do all the little stupid stuff to try to get his attention. I’ll walk slower so I can walk by him. I’ll talk louder to my friends so he can hear me. I’ll try to look my best so he’ll find me attractive. What kills me is I don’t know what runs through his head about me. I don’t like everyone, I want him. The party couldn’t be a one night thing, it felt so right. Why couldn’t he just realize that? If he wasn’t attracted to me, why’d he kiss me? And again if he doesn’t do random hook ups then what was that night to him? Many question have ran through my head so many times. The party has been two months ago now, so bringing it back up would make me sound deperate. We haven’t kissed since then, but we’ve hung out with our group of friends. Usually its not hard for me to get a guy, but Chett is a chase. Which like normal things you want something more when you can’t have it. What can I do? How do I flirt with him? What do I say? I know this all might sound desperate, but no one can give me the advice I’m looking for. I just need truth. Help?
Love, Katie.