Terrible Gut Feeling…

Hey April, my girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for a few months now, and I have the worst gut feeling that she’s cheated on me. Since we’ve been long distance, we’ve been talking daily via text, e-mails, and skype. We’d text each other good morning and good night, and would check in during the day and set up skype dates. Our texts and chats would be detailed, involved, and we’d be able to talk without any issues, but a couple days ago I got some questionable texts and now something feels amiss.

So a couple days ago she was going out on the town with some of her friends, many of whom have cheated on boyfriends in the past. She was texting me during the night about how things were going and that she missed me and everything was pretty much normal. Once they got to the bar though, that’s when I started receiving a few questionable texts. The first text was that a friend of hers was hooking up with a guy and that she sad she was all alone. Then she texted me that she was being the ‘wing man’ for her friends and that it wasn’t any fun anymore because she’s committed to someone(me). Then the texts stopped for almost three hours before she texted me that she got home, at 4 in the morning, when the bars closed at 2.

The day after her texts started being short one or two word answers, they seemed dismissive, and she wouldn’t text me for hours unless I texted her first. And when she would reply, they’d simply be an answer, as if she had lost all interest in me. I asked her if she wanted to jump on skype and chat either that day or the next, and she just replied “I’m going to be busy”. I tried asking her what was bothering her, and she got defensive. I’ve tried talking to her already and have asked her what’s different and explained why I’m thinking and feeling the way I am. She eventually told me a basic account of what happened, but it doesn’t seem right. There’s no real mention of her in the story, and it all seems to be about her friends. I feel like she’s leaving something out.

Here’s pretty much what she told me:
She told me that her friend had hooked up with a guy, and then they got invited to an after party by a group of other guys. She said her friend said yes, while my girlfriend allegedly said no. They apparently ditched them and went home, but I’m left wondering why it took her 2 hours to get home from the bar if they ditched them and went straight home. I also noted on my facebook news feed that a friend of hers made a comment on her wall commenting about a couple guys that had tried to get into the car they left in. They didn’t drive to the bar, and if they took a taxi home, why didn’t they say taxi?

I want to believe that nothing happened, but given that her friends have a history of cheating and her sudden change in demeanor, I don’t think I can.

What advice/counsel can you offer me?

Thanks