Is there any hope at getting back together if he has a new girlfriend?

Thank you very much, you’ve been the first person to tell me that I may have a chance in the future. And he did tell me that moving in was his way of trying to make it work again. However nothing was going to change if we didn’t work on the issues or if had no idea there was an issue for him. I’m not trying to blame this other girl, just trying to decipher if it seems more of a rebound or if its been enough time for him to have more legitimate feelings towards her. And as for working on myself, I’m doing that for me first and if he sees the results and wants to work on things then that is an added bonus. I was alone for 27 out of my 28 years, I’m not going to die without someone. I’ve learned to be happy with just me in the past and unfortunately he caught me when some of my demons were starting to resurface and ultimately kept me from letting him in 100% and being fully comfortable. I will admit that I begged multiple times to work things out and got a variety of responses from him that all equaled that he doesn’t want to. Part of me is also concerned that this girl is using him as her “rebound” so to speak and I don’t want him to get hurt. It worries me that she may be using him to make her ex want her back or that since she just got her heart broken she might have jumped into the arms of any guy who showed an interest and it just happened to be him. I don’t want to see him hurt, I do care about his happiness and that’s why her maturity level as its visible on her facebook concerns me. I guess I will just have to let their relationship run whatever course it is meant to and just try to continue working on getting myself back to where I want to be. I feel so sure with every part of me that he’s The One and that it could be better than it ever was if we got our second chance, but then again I’m sure its normal to feel that way after a breakup with someone you thought you were going to marry someday.

I’ve been working hard on myself and while my heart hasn’t healed at all, I have been able to finally say that I’m happy with myself where I am now. Yes I would still love for him to come back and to work things out, but he hasn’t made any effort to communicate and they seem to be very happy together on social media. Posting and tagging each other in things, which we didn’t do until about 6 months in because he said he hated that. Sometimes I wonder if he’s doing it to rub it in my face or perhaps to seem happier than he really is. He still sometimes looks at my snapchat story, but it seems like he only does after I make an interesting facebook post about me being out and doing something. Like a tattoo I got the other day which I never thought I’d do, and when I was out the other night. He may have just been looking at all the stories of his snapchat friends, just seemed a bit coincidental. As for communication, he told me before they started to date that he thought we should not see or talk to each other for awhile. Stupid me thought maybe it was because there were still feelings on his end, but maybe it was just for my sake knowing I’m still in love. He’s still friends with all of his exes, whether it was years or weeks they dated, so I doubt it was his way of being nice about saying he never wanted to see me again. I don’t have the urge to try to text him everyday anymore and have accepted the no contact. At this point I’m not really sure I even have a chance anymore. I thought he was the one simply because I knew the night we met that I wanted him in my life, months together felt like years, everything was so easy, we never had a fight in a year, being with him always felt like home no matter where we were at, and I think I fell for is flaws more than the good stuff most days. I thought that was what made him the one, and maybe he is and time will tell. I just don’t know what to do anymore, but I miss him more everyday and I swear I still fall in love with him every day even though he’s not around.

Three weeks into his relationship with her, they had commented “love you” on a facebook post and at that point I removed myself from facebook. I got back on after almost 3 weeks and noticed he finally changed his relationship status to in a relationship with her. I looked through some posts and noticed that she still tags him in stuff all day, but he hasn’t done much. He was tagging her in things daily. I know that’s not a good indicator of how their relationship is going, but part of me wonders if he was doing it because I could see it. It was days after I logged out that he slowed down on posting stuff about her. Or could it be a sign of their relationship winding down? I’ve heard that what starts fast ends fast and I’m hoping its just a rebound. 3 weeks is soon to say I love you to someone. We said it at a month but realized we were saying it out of lust, and I know I knew I was fully in love with him after about 4 months. I haven’t heard stories of rebounds saying I love you, but she also was in love with her ex when they started to date. In the last month we’ve been no contact, he still occasionally looks at my snapchat story and I haven’t been on facebook except once yesterday. I’ve lost almost 30lbs, gotten new hobbies, and have almost gotten to the point where I can say I’m happy. I say almost because some days are still hard, I swear I love him and miss him more everyday. A lot of the new things I’m doing are things we said we wanted to do together. I figured might as well do them on my own now. I’m still hoping for a reconciliation, but I can’t tell if this is going to be a lasting relationship for him or if there’s a good chance of it fizzling out. They’ve been together almost 2 months now. Whats your opinion and what do you think my chances are at this point? Sorry for the multiple posts on the other thread, it wouldn’t let me post that much on one post.

Kind of have an update. While I’m still not any more over this guy after 5 months, I felt I made progress yesterday. A few days ago I had sent him a message, basically apologizing for treating him more like a friend than a boyfriend for most of the relationship. I have so much guilt about it and thought that maybe if I apologized and got it off my chest I might be able to start moving on. He finally responded yesterday, hours after I saw he had read it. I didn’t expect a response so I was very surprised. He basically thanked me for the apology and gave me the “I still consider you a friend and want you to know I’m always here for you” speech. I told him I appreciated that, but I wasn’t in a place where I could be friends and talk to him. After that he asked me how things were going and I tried to be as short as I could and end the convo without being rude, since I had just expressed to him that I couldn’t do the talking like friends thing. Anyway, maybe it will help me move on or maybe it won’t. As much as I’d love to keep talking to him and try to charm him back into having feelings, I don’t think that’s best for my heart right now. That part of me is giddy that I was even on his brain yesterday, but I can’t focus on that or I’ll never make progress. I told him that I wanted him to be happy even if that means I can’t be happy right now because that’s what you do when you love someone that much & that I hoped she loved him at least half as much as I do. It took a lot for me to say that to him, so maybe that’s a sign I’m starting to slowly take a step forward.

Thanks! He messaged me yesterday with a silly excuse to try to hang out with me. A week after I had told him I couldn’t see him or talk to him right now. I told him no, I could see right through his phony excuse. Said he wanted to learn to do my hobby, even though i taught him while we were dating. I think her grass isn’t seeming so green anymore and he has noticed that I’ve been watering mine quite nicely the last 5 months and wants to check it out before he leaves his sure thing. Basically doing what I think he did to me with her. Not falling for it, if he wants to work things out he can do it the right way. In the meantime I’ve been meeting a lot of new friends, some guys even. I’ve become a totally different person now that I’ve stopped caring so much about what others might think of me. Best thing that’s ever happened to me and hopefully good things will continue to come