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June 21, 2016 at 9:24 pm #7780
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Participantbeen with my fiancé for 6 months. Both was going through hell. he saved me. He just came out of a quick marriage. me sick and whole family left me. she asked to marry him so he can get pr ( she admits) she cheated left, He has been loving and caring to me. Proposed a few weeks ago. then I had surgery, got infection and almost dead. hospital for a week and he slept there every night. his mom in law started texting him,trying to blackmail him to change the date on divorce. She put him on her taxes when they weren’t living together. I was on with lawyers, her mom, in hospital helping sick, for days I on the comp trying to find evidence of moving date He told me she moved in Nov, I found , he wrote she left dec 29. I ask, are you lying to me. I’m begging u my family left me when I got sick. He swore no . fight! admitted he lied cause if I find out she moved right b4 we met, that I wontdate him, was afraid I would get sick and dump him. bought me a 4000 ring when he has no money. begged me forgive . today, I was looking at his fb as he makes items. I found item was on top of the wedding cake from his ex. I was horrified, he said to put this on OUR wedding cake I texted him angry he said we talked about this. Iasked him if he had it at his other wedding he said yes. I do NOT remember that. When his visa expires, the only way he can stay is if I marry him. But if he is lying to me again, then how do I trust? . If I lose him, I’m totally alone, sick and will be heartbroken. Could I of forgotten the the conversation, being on the drugs? I’m so confused June 23, 2016 at 12:41 pm #34587April Masini
KeymasterIs he married to someone else? Or is his divorce finalized? June 23, 2016 at 1:07 pm #34598Participanthi I had to keep removing half the story because of the character limit. As of the end of day, the last papers are filed and he is divorced in a few weeks. The main issue was that he let me fight for him from the hospital when I was in horrible shape, when he was lying the whole time and it was pointless for me to make the calls because the calls were based on her moving date. But if it wasent for me, she would be contesting the divorce. I calmed the whole situation now with his ex and her mother and stopped them from fighting it. and now this stupid lie over a wedding cake. He says that he told me this, he admits tot he other stupid littlie lies, like him buying something he said he didn’t and was going to return, but I tod him I know he did. So none of these lies are major its just little things that make me untrust, and I lost all my family based on lies form my mother. I ended up in the hospital and she convinced my 16 year old to leave, and she hasent come back and wont move back, I tried to kill myself over that when she left, she was my whole life. He saved me from being alone and that keep depression. I still am depressed over my family. I am so sick and they don’t care, I Almost just died from sepsis, I found out my bladder has to be removed I’m going through hell, major colon issues too, possibly surgery there, and they don’t care, at all. HE is all I have. And he is so caring and loving. begged me not to leave him said we will go to counselling etc June 27, 2016 at 10:45 am #34617KeymasterI’m really sorry you’re having such a tough time. I can help you if you’re willing to make some changes: * First, your boyfriend is married. He was married when he proposed to you and he’s married now. You have to understand that he is someone else’s husband. He may be in the process of divorce, but it will help if you can be realistic about what’s going on.
* Second, stop interfering in his marriage and his divorce. There is no reason in the world for you to be on the phone with his mother in law or his wife. Just don’t get involved in his business. You’ll cut your stress level by almost 100%!
😀 Let him handle those problems and that stress. You have enough of your own issues — don’t take on his.😉 * Third, I’m sorry you have a bad history of family abandoning you. I understand that you feel hurt and you feel alone, but don’t complicate that unfortunate issue by creating chaos with this guy who still has all sorts of obligations to his wife and his family. At best, he’s a rebound boyfriend. At worst, he’s been cheating on his wife with you. I think love and relationships are wonderful — but you have to pick someone who is going to offer you trust. Focus on your choices, and keep it simple. If a guy is going through a difficult divorce he’s not going to be able to be there for you the way you want him to — be realistic and you’ll be happier.
I hope you feel better soon, and if you have any other questions, please ask.
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