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I can’t believe she has no feelings about me anymore.

April Masini Relationship Advice Forum Relationship Advice Forum I can’t believe she has no feelings about me anymore.

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    periklouie
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    We work for the same company so sometimes I see her at work. It all came too fast and she first started to say big words like she is in love and she is afraid she will lose me etc.
    Then she started say that she doesn’t feel the same way and that she is suffocating on the idea to be in a relationship. That happened about 50 days ago.
    I acted needy and begged her to meet me. She refused, we fought I said bad things and she blocked me from every social.
    I attempted to talk her at work several times bus she insisted no. After 15 days we had a small talk but I put pressure on her to meet me out of work and she told me that she does not want any contact.
    2 hours later she text me “I don’t know if i should text this or not.. Nevertheless I wanted to text this because you made me feel bad because i don’t want to talk to you. What really happens is that when i can’t handle a situation then I leave it. I can not continue to think about it and discuss it. Although I don;t want to talk to you anymore, I want you to be well. I had been in pressure, I was pissed off form time to time, but whatever happened, happened, there are no bad feelings left. i just don’t want to talk to you because there is no point in this. Sorry for being paranoid.. ”
    I replied to her that she is right and i am the one to blame cause i couldn’t handle the situation and i am really sorry. i apologised.
    Now it is day 4 we have no contact. I promised myself i will not contact her for at least a month. i will not “accidentally” bumped on her at work as i used to.
    Is ther any chance?

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    April Masini
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    No. This is over.

    A couple of things to look out for when you’re dating — if someone starts to come on really strong within the first few months of dating, be wary. Those fast romances that feel dizzy and wonderful, end just as quickly. People who are impulsive and say the L word too early in the relationship, will often break up with you just as quickly. So slow down and watch out for people you date who are moving too fast. That speed goes both ways — in and out of relationships.

    Next, understand that being needy and appearing desperate, aren’t attractive qualities and they won’t draw people to you — they’ll repel them, instead. So find your confidence and show those you date that you’re into them, but you’re okay without them, too. You’ll attract a lot more people that way. 😉

    And lastly, remember that if you’re having so much drama in the first four months, this isn’t a healthy relationship and the fighting so early on is a sign that you’re not compatible with that person, or you’re not ready to be in a relationship (for any number of reasons).

    So, I’m sorry you’re disappointed, but I think you’re going to be much happier if you move on and find someone who is more compatible with you, to date. 🙂

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