Clearly you don’t want to date him, and you certainly don’t owe him anything. As [b]Trudy[/b] suggested, a firm but polite response to his next request to date you, should make it clear that you’re no longer interested in him at all.

It sounds, however, that you’re mad at yourself for spending time with him. For future, you might feel better about things if you understand that when you accept a lunch date with a guy, he may very well be looking for a long term relationship. That you weren’t, means you were incompatible from day one! His wanting to see you several times a week may have been an awkward statement on his part, but he was being clear with you that he wanted a more serious relationship. That could have been your cue to end the relationship there.

His response about your ex-boyfriend’s ability in bed was rude — but consistent! This guy was awkward when he told you he wanted to date you two to three times a week. Some people miss social cues, and he may be a prize winner in that category! That he wanted to buy you a Christmas present was actually very sweet — it’s not inappropriate to give someone you’re casually dating a gift. I think you felt uncomfortable because the two of you were incompatible from day one, and you kept going out or keeping in touch, hoping that each other would change.

I don’t think you’re hyper-sensitive, but I think you’re angry at yourself for wasting time with someone who isn’t compatible and you’re blaming him instead of yourself. Dating is a numbers game, and you have to meet people and decide if they’re your Mr. Right or not. When you know they’re not, it’s a good idea to move on so you don’t waste your time — or theirs.

You should read Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to win the dating game. You can by it here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] or on the websites for Amazon or Barnes & Noble. It will help you a lot! 🙂

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You have a responsibility in any relationship you enter into. You’re not a victim! 😯 You get to decide who you date and don’t date, so if someone’s not compatible or interesting to you, don’t waste your time and his.

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