Fill me in one thing — did you ask him if it was okay for you to drive down and spend Valentine’s Day with him? Or did you do it on your own without his knowledge or consent?

Got it. Thank you for the extra information.

Since he asked you to visit him, and then didn’t treat you very nicely when you made the effort, you have to look at the bigger picture. Your relationship has changed from an in town relationship to a long distance relationship. The latter is different. It’s more difficult, and it requires cutting each other more slack. In other words, you’re going to have more miscommunications and more disappointments if you hold to in town standards. That’s a rule for LDRs in general. It also sounds like your boyfriend has some new responsibilities with his new school and the baseball team there, and he may be under pressure you don’t know about, so again, you can cut him some slack there if you choose. And finally, he may have met someone else and just wasn’t into the routine the two of you have typically had. 😕

If you do want to continue the relationship, then you’re going to have to let this one go. I know you’re upset about it, and you’re not wrong — but it’s happened and the best you can do is to not drive the relationship into failure by continuing to make him feel badly about his mistake. Is there something you want from him that you’re trying to get by continuing to bring this problem up over and over again? If you know what it is, I can help you address it. You’re right to not want to visit again, expecting the reception you had anticipated and didn’t get. But if you do want the relationship to continue, long distance, then you have to make some adjustments. He’s not the first or last boyfriend to disappoint on Valentine’s Day, and if you see the relationship as long-term, you can do things differently next year. It’s one day out of the year, and if you’re fine with the other 364 days, then this holiday is one to work through.

I hope that helps. Let me know if you have any other questions.