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I met a wonderful man through a mutual friend almost a year ago. We met one day but we didnt exchange numbers or anything and soon we began seeing each other all the time. He would always flirt with me! We exchanged numbers and began to talk every now and again. From the beginning he came out and told me that he really likes me but he has a girlfriend. I respected that and we agreed to be friends. He did small things for me like gave me money or always checked to see that I was ok. I stopped calling and texting him and we lost contact eventually. One day I decided to text and check on him he called me immediately and said he was happy I texted him because he had to get a new phone and lost my number. This was about our sixth month knowing each other. From there we began talking more than ever and we began to hang out daily. No sex was involved at this time just us hanging out and talking about things. He never left out the fact that he had a girlfriend but he always complained about being unhappy and how he wished that I would want him. I didnt like him then and I wouldnt give him the time of day. However, things changed rapidly, and I thought I could mess around with him and not catch feelings (I have done it before) but here I am falling. He tells me he loves me, he asks me all the time to tell him how I feel but I am afraid because he isnt my man. He and his current girlfriend have been together 3 years and he says he is unhappy but she is cool. They have no children together and he says he doesnt want one with her, but he is currently trying to impregnant me. We go out together in public and he takes me around his friends. I have never met his family however. April, do you think he is seriously unhappy with his relationship or is he just telling me what he thinks I want to hear? If he is unhappy why wont he just leave her? I really am catching feelings for him, we have a close bond, and I feel at peace with him, like everything will be fine no matter what. I would love to be with him but I refuse to ask or demand that he leave his girlfriend. It’s getting hard for me to continue this with so many feelings….should I continue and hope he leaves her or throw in the towel? Sincerely, lovesick reader.

[Ask April Masini]

He’s trying to [i]impregnate[/i] you? 😯 Wait — are you a horse that’s used for breeding? The way you described the situation it sounds like you have nothing to say about getting pregnant. 😕 I DO HOPE you’re using birth control so that YOU have some control over whether or not you get pregnant — especially since you don’t have a commitment from this guy who doesn’t sound like he’d be responsible if you did get pregnant! Be safe, healthy and careful!

As for your questions: [quote]April, do you think he is seriously unhappy with his relationship or is he just telling me what he thinks I want to hear? If he is unhappy why wont he just leave her? I really am catching feelings for him, we have a close bond, and I feel at peace with him, like everything will be fine no matter what. I would love to be with him but I refuse to ask or demand that he leave his girlfriend. It’s getting hard for me to continue this with so many feelings….should I continue and hope he leaves her or throw in the towel? [/quote]

No — he is not seriously unhappy with his girlfriend. If he was, he’d stop seeing her! 😯 He’s been with her for three years, so he likes her enough!

No — you should not continue to see him and hope he leaves her. He will never leave her. He’s probably got other women he’s seeing, too.

You have to take responsibility for your own happiness and success when it comes to dating. If a man isn’t going to be Mr. Right, don’t waste time on him. It’s not fair to you — or to him. Read my book, Think & Date Like A Man, and follow the rules in it. Here’s the link where you can download it immediately: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. You can also buy it on Amazon.com or the website for Barnes & Noble. Buy it and read it!! It’s going to help you get back on track to success in dating.

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes, and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter, and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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