[Renayy]

Hi, I met a guy 4 days ago online and we have been talking ever since. He was looking for a relationship but i wasn’t so I told him we could be just friends. He is nice to me and he is a gentleman as well. He would be relocating to my country in September and I’m the only person he knows for now. All of a sudden I found myself liking him, and getting upset when he doesn’t text me. It’s been only four days and I don’t know whats happening. Another problem is that he is 34 and I will turn 20 next month. I’ve been single all my life and suffered from depression. I haven’t planned on having a relationship because one moment I feel like dating and the next moment I wanna be single. I’m so confused it’s like I don’t know what I want. Even if there should be a relationship between us someday, what about the age.? What should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, I understand that you’re back and forth on the idea of dating. This is normal because you’re a teenager. 😉 That’s why I think it’s a good idea for you to get off the internet and meet people in real life. You’re getting attached to a guy who lives in a different country, after only four days of connecting with him online. That’s a very short time and a very flimsy connection. If you meet someone in real life, it’s much easier to judge their character and your compatibility. I think some of your anxiety about dating is coming from the source of your dates — the internet. As for the age difference, I think your experience difference is way more important than the age. A 34 year old man who is connecting with a teenager probably does not have long-term intentions in mind. 😕 That doesn’t mean he’s not interesting and intriguing, but I think you should try to look for people in real life. I hope that helps. 😉

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