The first thing you need to do is to take responsibility for your part in this. If you’d like your wife to be more enticing and you seem to have run up against a brick wall, don’t throw in the towel. Try something different. 😉
For starters, make YOURSELF more enticing to her. Has she always loved a mustache on you, and you’ve refused to grow one? Or the opposite? Try some facial hair — or get rid of it. Amp up YOUR grooming to become more attractive — try a new cologne (that’ll get her attention!) and if your feet are need a pedicure, get one! Manscaping, hair cuts, and basic workouts to get you buff will be noticed by her. I know that from what you’ve written, she’s stuck in a mommy mode. Well….. maybe if she’s not having sex with daddy — but instead, a hot, new you, she’ll feel less like hiding her cleavage! 😀
Next, make date night DATE night — not errand night. It takes two to tango, and with that in mind, buy tickets, book classes, make reservations — do your part to make date night about reclaiming intimacy lost and not accomplishing DIY household chores.
Third, understand that having a new baby or a toddler is an obstacle to any couple’s sex life, so give the grandparents (or aunts and uncles) a chance to do their thing and earn their titles — by asking them to stay over for a weekend so you can get away. Hotel sex is hot by simply NOT being your home with all the reminders of responsibility. In town hotels are great. Regular grown up getaways are important.
If you want her to dress in sexy lingerie, then buy her some. Make her feel desired with a gift of new perfume, a piece of jewelry or flowers. Poems and love letters work. In other words — don’t back her into a corner and DISCUSS your lack of a sex life. Instead, SHOW her how much you want her and how sexy you are…. 😎
And lastly, remember that she’s going to need some seduction, so don’t expert her to be as revved up as you naturally are. Candlelit bathtubs, massages, cocktails by the fireplace or swimming pool — these are all transitions that allow her to get in the mood.
Consider buying a book I wrote for couples like you who want to get the X back in their sex lives. It’s called Romantic Date Ideas, and you can buy it here for $8.99: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url]. 😀
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