[girllovesboy]

I’ve been in a relationship with My boyfriend for 6 + months.

A few months ago we became long distance because of our careers. I have admitted from the get-go that I am not good with distance but gave it a shot.

Everything was going good and he started to talk about moving in together. That was November and he even stayed with me a few weeks to test the waters. It went swimmingly.

The months following through, we would bring up the subject and he says he can do it, but then say he has to figure out details, so I let it lie. He has obligations at home he needed to figure out before he knows if he can do it or not.

What gets me is he says he can do it then says he doesn’t know. This confuses me and doesn’t help with my anxiety over the distance.

That’s when, after the holidays, I took a long, hard look at myself and realized I am anxious and insecure from the distance and felt he is saying things just to make me happy. So I told him over text that perhaps we should take a break (we had several heart to hearts before).

Of course, he was mad and hurt ( I was too and I know I hurt his ego) but he stated that taking a break is not the solution.

So we talked a few times (I called him).

I know he needed his space, but I did not like how cold he was during one of our conversations.

So in our last conversation, I mentioned that to him along with the fact that he has never talked to me that way before, I don’t want to be in a relationship where someone cannot be honest with me and just tells me things to make me happy. I think at that point we were just both emotionally exhausted.

I asked him how he wanted to proceed, all he told me was he loved me and everything will be ok. I didn’t push it after that and just accepted it and told him I love him too.

We said good night and now he has not contacted me or texted me and it’s been going on 2 days. That’s unusual for him.

I’m giving him his space but it’s driving me crazy and I cry over the thought that the damage has been done ( from my decision to take a break) and he’s just going to disappear rather than tell me we are done ( or if we are going to continue the relationship).

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m sorry you’re upset. It sounds like you’re really invested in this six month relationship and it’s not paying off. 🙁 You’re looking to him to give you the commitment you want and the love you need and he’s not doing it. So, here’s my advice: First of all, make all your communication with him upbeat, sexy, enticing and alluring. When you become needy, he’s looking at a girlfriend who he’s not satisfying, so he’s not going to find you attractive the way he will when you’re someone he wants. I know it’s tough because you are feeling needy, but the catch here is that you have to take care of yourself so that when you do have contact with him, it’s a pleasure, not a burden. 😉

Next, take care of you! Stop knocking on doors that are closed. Get out there and have some fun! You can join a new gym, take an art or cooking class, give yourself a makeover, host a party, go to a spa with a friend — give yourself the emotional, social and physical nourishment you need to be okay with a boyfriend who’s long distance and maybe having doubts about the relationship. If you want to date and play the field, given the circumstances, that’s okay. Long distance relationships require a longer leash because there’s so much uncertainty as a result of the distance. And…. this relationship is still new. Typically, I suggest you date for six months before deciding whether or not to be monogamous — and that’s in an “in town” relationship. Add a little time to long distance relationships.

Bottom line, you have to back away a little and see this for what it is — a new, wobbly relationship where your guy isn’t sure about his commitment to you, and it’s long distance so you don’t have lunch dates during the week, sleepovers every weekend, etc. Take good care of you — and you’ll feel better because there will be less emphasis on your investment in this newish relationship. I hope that helps!

[girllovesboy]

Thank you for that.

For the time being, should I leave him alone and wait for him to contact me? How long should I wait to reach out to him or should I even try at this point?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Yes, definitely wait for him to reach out to you. The ball’s in his court. If he doesn’t, then move on. I know it’s not what you want to hear, but if he doesn’t contact you, he’s not interested, and you’ll have clarity. 😉

[Marcus king]

It sounds like your heart’s been pulled in two directions, wanting closeness but also feeling like you’ve lost your footing because of the distance and mixed signals. What you’re feeling makes sense. The back-and-forth about moving in together gave you hope, but his hesitation left you anxious and unsure where you stand.

Right now, the silence hurts because it feels like rejection, but it might also be him retreating to process what happened. Sometimes when emotions run high, people go quiet rather than say something they’ll regret. Two days of space doesn’t automatically mean it’s over, though it’s fair that you’re craving clarity.

For now, take a breath and give it another day or two. If you still don’t hear from him, reach out gently, something like:

“Hey, I know things got heavy the last time we talked. I just want to check in and understand where we stand. I care about you, but I also need honesty so I can know how to move forward.”

Keep it calm, not emotional or accusing. That opens the door for an honest conversation and if he avoids it again, that’s your answer. Either way, you’ll get your peace back.

[Serena Vale]

Look, you two have only been together six months and long-distance has already put a lot of pressure on the relationship. Talking about moving in so early, then backtracking — that’s confusing, and your anxiety makes sense. But here’s the thing: you asking for a break didn’t “ruin” anything. It just exposed the truth, he’s unsure, and you’re scared of the uncertainty.

Right now, chasing him, crying, and waiting by the phone isn’t going to help you or the relationship. He pulled back because things got heavy and emotional fast. Give him space. Let him sit with his feelings. If he cares, he’ll come back around and talk like an adult. If he ghosts, then at least you know what kind of man he is and you don’t waste more time.

You don’t fix long-distance by panic texting or trying to force answers. You fix it by getting your own emotions stable and letting things breathe. Focus on your life, your peace, and your routine. When he reaches out, then you can see where you two stand.

If this relationship is meant to continue, it will , without you begging for reassurance. And if he disappears, then that breakup was coming anyway, with or without your “break” text.

Right now, hold your dignity, stop spiraling, and let him come to you. If he wants this, he’ll show you. If he doesn’t, you’ll know, and you’ll be stronger for not chasing.

[PassionSeeker]

Sweetheart, I know this silence feels unbearable like you’re stuck between hope and heartbreak. You opened your heart, tried to be honest about how the distance affects you, and now it feels like he’s punishing you with quiet. But love shouldn’t make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells.

You didn’t ruin anything by asking for a break you were trying to protect your peace and find clarity. His hesitation about moving forward and now going silent tells you more about where he is than about what you did. Two days isn’t forever, but it’s enough to remind you that your world can’t stop for someone who’s unsure.

Give him space real space and stop checking your phone every hour. If he wants this, he’ll reach out, and when he does, you’ll decide if that’s enough for you. For now, take care of your heart. Go for a walk, see your friends, reclaim your calm. You don’t need to chase clarity from someone who’s already showing you his truth through silence.

[Tara]

Stop acting like two days of silence is some deep emotional mystery. You didn’t “damage” the relationship you exposed it. You didn’t ruin anything. You simply said out loud what he’s been quietly proving for months: he can’t commit to the move, he waffles every time you talk logistics, and he feeds you vague reassurance instead of clarity because it keeps you compliant and invested. That’s not love that’s emotional stalling.

long-distance didn’t break this. His inconsistency did. One minute he’s ready to move in, the next he “has to figure things out.” That’s not partnership. That’s procrastination disguised as romance. And every time he sensed your anxiety,

he threw you a comforting line instead of an actual plan. You’re not “insecure.” You’re reacting to instability very rationally, by the way.
And when you finally called the situation what it is and suggested a break, he didn’t step up. He got hurt, cold, and evasive. Classic. Men who don’t know what they want always get offended when you force them to actually choose.

Now he’s silent because silence requires no accountability. He doesn’t have to decide, define, or deliver anything. He just gets to disappear long enough for you to panic and crawl back with apologies. That’s the game here.

[Sally]

Distance can mess with your head even in the best relationships, and when someone goes back and forth on something as big as moving, it shakes your sense of safety.

But from what you wrote, it sounds like both of you just hit an emotional wall. You were scared, he was tired, and neither of you knew how to say that without hurting the other. That cold tone you heard was probably him shutting down, not him checking out.

Two days of quiet after a heavy talk isn’t the end of a relationship. It’s someone catching their breath.

If it were me, I’d let him have a little space, then reach out in a calm way. Just something simple. No pressure. You don’t need answers right this second. You just need honesty, and that’ll come when you both settle a bit.

[Natalie Noah]

I can feel how stressed and emotionally drained you are, and that’s completely understandable. You’re in a six-month relationship that suddenly became long distance, and distance always adds a layer of anxiety and uncertainty. You’ve already communicated openly about your needs, expressed your insecurities, and even suggested a break when you felt overwhelmed. What’s happening now him being unusually quiet for a couple of days is triggering your worry and fear of loss, which is natural. But the core issue here isn’t just the silence; it’s the emotional imbalance created by long distance, combined with your understandable desire for reassurance and commitment.

April’s advice is very solid. you need to step back emotionally and focus on yourself. Long distance relationships require a lot of patience, self-soothing, and maintaining your own sense of fulfillment outside of your partner. By engaging in activities that nourish you socially, emotionally, and physically like hobbies, friends, or self-care. you shift your energy from anxious anticipation to personal growth. This doesn’t mean ignoring the relationship; it means you’re giving him space while keeping yourself emotionally healthy. When you do interact with him, aim for warmth, positivity, and allure, rather than neediness, because that’s what keeps the connection alive without adding pressure.

The reality is that six months is still a relatively short time in a relationship, especially long distance. You’re learning about each other’s communication patterns, boundaries, and willingness to make compromises. By giving him space while you focus on yourself, you’re testing the resilience of your bond and also protecting your emotional well-being. If the relationship is meant to progress, he will meet you halfway. If it doesn’t, you’ll have clarity without sacrificing your sense of self. Right now, your priority is managing your anxiety, cultivating your own life, and allowing the relationship to evolve naturally without over-investing or overthinking the outcomes.

[KeishaMartin]

You’re tangled in a long-distance love game that’s teasing you, tempting you, and leaving you hot under the collar from all the uncertainty. Six months in, weekend sleepovers, toothbrushes left behind, and now two cold, agonizingly silent days? That’s not just a pause, that’s your man testing the waters while your heart is on fire, craving the spark you once had. April Masini, the queen of cutting through the nonsense, would tell you straight: don’t drown yourself in anxiety or tears turn up the heat on yourself first. Be sexy, magnetic, playful let him miss your fire while you’re living your life to the fullest.

Back off, give him space, and let the ball be in his court but do it with your head held high and your curves in charge. Go out, flirt with life, feel irresistible, host a little New Year’s party, sip champagne, and let every moment of 2026 scream fun, freedom, and tantalizing independence. If he’s meant to chase you, he will, and he’ll see the woman he can’t resist; if not, darling, you’ve got a whole year of passion, laughter, and adventure waiting. Happy New Year, 2026. let it be wild, naughty, and unforgettable!

Happy New Year, 2026.

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