[savinggrace14]

Ok I have known this guy for over 5 years now and we met in college and we have been friends for years. I liked him but I noticed he liked my best friend more. So I played matchmaker and they started dating. I felt that his happiness was important and if it was meant to be it would be. He dated my best friend and then she broke up with him… with me in the middle. I decided to take the approach of not choosing sides and isolated myself from both of them. Next thing I know I get a txt message from him saying he wanted to see me before he left to join the Navy…with me thinking what he is joining the Navy? So basically right before he left he told me he really wanted to make it work and said he liked me. He even told me he cared about me after he got out of boot camp. Then I went down to see him about two months ago and really realized I missed him. A month later he told me he wanted to stay single for awhile because he needs guy time and doesn’t like long distance relationships. He still wants to be his friend and even told me that he cares about me but can’t date right now (I think he wants to get his life in order before he dates me but I am not sure). The last long distance relationship he was in was a girl he dated for 3 years in high school and said that he notice that they lost their chemistry so that is why they ended it. He says there is still chemistry there with us and when he saw me didn’t want to send a double standard by making moves on me. So now I am trying to figure out what to do. I am still single but I feel loyal to him. Plus he told one of my other friends he sees me in his life in some way, but doesn’t know how. Do I wait? Do I move on? What do I tell him? How do I act?

[kai]

Hi, I’ve told this to several other people who have posted questions in the WELCOME AREA: the Welcome Area [b]IS NOT for questions[/b] and [u]should not[/u] be used to get advice. 😮

it says “DO NOT post your questions” here, when you go to sign up. 😳

Please [b]repost your question in the Q & A Relationship Advice Forum[/b] if you want to get a response from April.

[b]you won’t get a response to your question here — this is the welcome area.[/b] 😀

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

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