Hi. I’ve been dating this woman for about 4 months. She actually “chased me” for a couple months before we went out. She was quick to get physically intimate and I actually was the one to wait a bit. After this, she wanted me to stay the night with her during the week and weekends which I did some. She was pre-menopausal, apparently had work and home stressors when we met and before becoming intimate. All of a sudden, she pulled away physically and somewhat emotionally. She told a mutual girlfriend of ours as well as me the sex was great so I don’t think that’s why she’s pulled away. She says her hormones are out of whack and I do believe this because her face gets red when she gets hot flashes. I carefully asked her if there was problem and she said she didn’t want anyone touching her – so now there’s no contact. She still texts/calls me every day and I normally go over to her place 3-4 times a week. When she drinks, she is much more “into me” than when sober and I don’t understand this. She is also the type that practically refuses to discuss things and almost gets angry the couple times I’ve very carefully brought anything up. I feel like the relationship is regressing rather than progressing, but earlier this week the whole situation irritated me and I told her that I felt like we were just friends. This statement made her somewhat angry and she said that, no I wasn’t in the friend zone. She has also told me she loved me a couple of times, but I think that was the alcohol talking. This hot and cold treatment has me baffled, confused and a little irritated. I don’t know whether to throw in the towel or not. Haven’t told her, but have had a few offers with other women for dinner, drinks, etc. but have not acted on any of them, mainly because I don’t think it’s right to see other women when sleeping/have slept with someone. But we’re not sleeping together anymore so this complicated things even more. I do really like this woman, but her actions are so confusing I don’t know what to do – I don’t wan to invest my time in a meaningless relationship…..
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
