[Mica]

Hi, I’m Mica, 19 years old.
I have a suitor who is incredibly kind, thoughtful and hardworking. He’s the type of person many would consider a walking green flag. He always puts in a lot of effort to make me feel special but despite all of that, I just don’t like him the way he likes me. Maybe it’s because he’s simply not my type.
One day, even though there was no special occasion, he surprised me by sending me a bouquet of flowers. That was just one example of how much effort he constantly put into pursuing me. He even introduced me to his family, despite the fact that I had already rejected him twice.
I appreciated the things he did but my feelings never changed. No matter how kind he was, I couldn’t force myself to develop romantic feelings for him.
Then one day, I found out that I wasn’t the only person he was trying to court. Apparently, he was also pursuing another girl at the same time. Learning that changed the way I looked at his actions and intentions.
After rejecting him for the third time, I decided to ghost him completely. I stopped replying and cut off communication.
What surprised me the most was that I didn’t feel guilty. Even after all the effort he had shown, I felt no regret about my decision. I had already made my feelings clear multiple times and I felt like I didn’t owe him a relationship just because he had been nice to me.
Am I a bad person for not feeling guilty after rejecting a kind and persistent suitor?

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