I’ve let the online ‘relationship’ my boyfriend [now ex] has with a girl destroy our relationship. I’ve blocked and deleted him from everything (Facebook, MSN, Skype, even Xbox Live) so that he can’t contact me and I’m not tempted to take him back or forgive him. He still has the audacity to call me, even after I requested that he doesn’t and ask to see me. He refuses to apologise or even see that he’s done anything wrong. I said I’d only ever consider taking him back if he blocks and deletes her for good, but he refuses to, saying he ‘can’t’ – which to me means that his feelings for her run too deep for him to let her go. Am I overreacting? I feel like I need an impartial opinion of this just so I know if I’m doing the right thing. Here’s some background info:
•He met this girl on a site called VampireFreaks around the time that we first started seeing each other.
•When we actually started going out I discovered notes he’d written to her and help up on Skype saying things like “I like you too…a lot” & asking her to take her clothes off, etc.
•He gave her his number so she could text him.
•She made a drawing of him and put it up on her VF account.
•They were planning to meet up behind my back. This only came to an end when I demanded that they stopped talking and she accquired a boyfriend – found out from her that my boyfriend was furious when she got her boyfriend.
•I made him delete his VF account (which he did) & block and delete her from everything. He did – except for Skype and MSN and kept this from me for 4 months before I found out.
•When I found out he was still talking to her he swore it was completely innocent, that they are just friends and they rarely talk at all anymore.
•However, I found a picture comment he had left her, which he never intended for me to find, saying “The most beautiful girl in all of Sweden, surely” – he tried to claim that he was merely saying it was a good photo and that there was nothing for me to worry about – but to me, that is NOT something you say to a friend, so I dumped him.
•He’s now trying to claim he has no feelings for this girl, it’s all perfectly innocent, that he’s not in the wrong and that he doesn’t want to or see why he should delete a ‘friend’.
What the fuck?!
