[ChocolateChipCookie]

Well, there is this guy I really like.

I met him at my gym. I first talked to him when I asked him if he could help me with some things. He was really nice to me and since that day, we would make small talk or tell silly jokes whenever we run into each other. I didn’t think much of it until I noticed him staring at me and him approaching me to give me some advices, but in such weird-shy way I wonder if I ever left him talking alone because I couldn’t hear him ! He wouldn’t call my name, he would just come close to me looking down and starting to talk softly until I noticed him, then his voice would become clearer and felt him a little bit more confident when I thanked him for his attention.

I got curious of him so I asked again if he could help me with some exercises and drills. He said yes and when we were practicing the drills, he was really happy, protective and attentive. He also started calling me beautiful and I noticed he was more touchy feely. I’ve seen him around and I notice he’s really easy going and a little bit blunt, but when he’s around me, he’s really caring. I also wondered if he was like this with other girls and he doesn’t even acknowledges them except one time where he hugged one girl and looked at me while doing so. 🙄

He seems to be this super confident, driven guy and honestly, he looks a little bit intimidating. He seems too serious and sometimes angry, but don’t get me wrong, his kindness is what melts me. For example, I wanted to make something nice for him as he was helping me with my drills, nothing fancy of course, so I bought a chocolate and gave it to him. He got SUPER happy and immediately opened it and bit it and reassured me with such a big, sincere smile that anytime I needed anything I could go to him and he would help me. On the other hand, once when we were with the drills, he suddenly took his shirt off in front of me. I didn’t know what to do or say, I just blushed and looked away. Then he put another shirt on and we continued, locker rooms were too steps away. Then I ran into him at the park, I got so excited I just said Hi! He had his beautiful dog with him and I started asking him questions about the dog and asked if I could touch him. He explained to me his dog was a trained dog by him and that I couldn’t touch both of them because the dog would bit me. 😐 He then tried to introduce me to the dog but I was already a little bit scared like, dude I’m just trying to be your friend… 🙁 chill, I’m sensitive !

Since then we have this weird chemistry between us. I’ve caught him staring at me and then looking away. Sometimes he seems so tense around me he would avoid saying hi to later approach me in his weird-shy way. The other day I wanted to talk to him because I like him and he was looking at some posters on the wall. I just said ‘hi!’ and he looked at me so surprised he immediately asked ‘What’s up beautiful what do you need?’ I didn’t expect that answer so I just shook my head. When he saw my reaction, he closed his eyes, sighed and then started asking me about my day in a more openly way. I somehow felt dumb.

And yesterday as I was leaving the gym, his friend and him were getting ready to hit it. He was looking at me with such a weird expression, like nervousness, like he was unsure, concerned, even his mouth was slightly open… I thought I could be cute and I smiled at him and stuck my tongue out, then I smiled some more. His expression didn’t change at all 😥 but he immediately pushed his friend to the side and came to say hello to me. ‘Hi beautiful’, I asked him how he was, he just replied ‘yeah’ and left.

Yeah well, I’m speechless. I wish I could get to know him better but I feel I’m daydreaming too much. Honestly I’m not all over him 24/7 but I feel I should give him space. I don’t know how else to approach him but I think I’m just going to be friendly if he wants to approach me. 🙁

Any advice?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong. The only thing I’d advise is that you flirt with him more, so he understands that you’re definitely interested his asking you out. 😉 Believe it or not, as obvious as it may be to you that that’s what you want — he may not realize it. 🙂

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[ChocolateChipCookie]

You think he’s interested?

I’m afraid I’m being way too obvious and he’s just playing nice…

Besides, how do I flirt with him without making him go ‘intense mode’ like it happened with his dog ?

I was thinking smiles, winks?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The best thing about flirting is that it gives a guy a clear idea that you’re interested. Believe it or not, sometimes guys need more encouragement than you might imagine. And it gives you a better idea about whether or not he’s interested in you! If he is, he’ll flirt back and ask you out. As for the dog situation — I think it’s completely different.

You might want to buy [b]Think & Date Like A Man[/b], a book I wrote for women, because it’s got a whole chapter in it about flirting. Here’s the link [url]https://askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

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