I’ve been seeing a guy for 3 months now. He is the first guy in just about a year that I have had any real feelings for. Recently, he has been doing things that upset me and I have been thinking about ending anything before we get too far into a relationship. My fear is that I might be overreacting.
The gist of my dilemma is that I recently wrote him a letter stating the things that were bothering me. Some were simple, others more complex. None of which were life changing. An example is that he chews. I asked him to just not do it around me or talk about it around me. Likewise, he is racist and I’m not. I asked him to not say racist things around me. I’m not completely changing him or his beliefs, just asking him to respect my feelings and beliefs as well. Things seemed fine and dandy after we discussed this letter, but within a 2 days time, he had already began doing multiple specific things we discussed in the letter. It seemed like he was trying to upset me on purpose as he was doing these things in an even more overt and excessive fashion. When I confronted him about it, he said it was supposed to be funny and he wasn’t trying to make me mad. Many people, myself included have told me to call it off. Am I overreacting if I do?
Also, the next problem is that every time I even think about telling him it’s over, or what his reaction might be, i start to bawl my eyes our and my heart just aches. Why if I’m feeling so unhappy, do I find it so hard to even think about ending it with him?
I’d really like some input. Any bit will help.
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