My boyfriend and I have been together almost five years and have lived together almost a year. Since we moved in together, we’ve had a lot of problems. He’s not the person I thought he was at all. I feel like he constantly corrects my behavior and is constantly criticizing me. On top of that, he seems to have not even an ounce of respect for me. I’ll admit that I can be pretty sensitive, but it really starts to get to you after a while when the person who’s supposed to care about you hardly ever has anything positive to say about you.
Whenever I try to talk to him about it, he makes it like I’m coming out of nowhere and then somehow shifts the blame to me. He never takes responsibility for anything, instead everything is my fault. Also, whenever I bring up his constant criticism, he either says he’s joking or trying to protect me and that I’m taking it the wrong way.
We had a major fight tonight and of course all kinds of things were said and he says that now he’s done with me and is moving out. I know it’s for the best, but I just don’t know how this even happened. He swears that I’m unstable and a psycho and that we have no problems, that I’m just imagining things and turning them into big fights. I don’t see that, instead I see someone who constant makes negative comments, who never appreciates what I do, and who nothing is ever good enough for.
Is it possible that he’s right and I’m just causing problems in the relationship because of my own issues? Or have I allowed him to manipulate me so much that I’m questioning myself for his behavior?
