This question is in relation to how I should handle, and if I should proceed with asking a girl out.
I’m 29, single, and haven’t been in a relationship for 5 years. I’ve been talking a lot to a girl I work with. I will sit at her desk for hours talking to her. She doesn’t seem to have a lot of friends and just recently opened up to me about recently breaking up with her boyfriend of 6 years, who said he didn’t have feelings for her anymore. She is likely having a hard time dealing with this. She has invited herself to a gaming group me and a few other co workers participate in every saturday, and seems interested in joining us. Most of my co workers think she is interested in me and she asked me about some of my past relationships. She told me she doesn’t have a lot of friends but wants to go out with her girlfriends soon to have some fun. I’d like to see how she acts towards me outside of work, and ask her out if we get along. I’m having a hard time with this, because I know she JUST got out of a long relationship, one that spanned most of her adult life. Most girls won’t look for another relationship right away. I don’t want to be the “rebound guy”, i want to be THE guy since I actually really like this girl, but I would feel remiss if I didn’t at least try. Should I ask her out to something more private, and if so, how do I go about this? Do I lay it out on the table and tell her I understand she just got out of something and we can take it at her own pace? Or is it a good idea to just avoid asking her alltogether?
