[Brianna675]

So me and this guy started snap chatting and texting about a month ago (i knew him personally as well, we just never take in person). We were just talking as friends at first, and then things started to get more flirtatious. He was really sweet- always sent me cute messages, texted me all day, sent me sweet good morning and good night text every day (we also exchanged a few intimate photos with each other). We both knew we didn’t want to start a relationship, so we agreed that we would just be friends with benefits and keep it between us. I’m currently away at college, so one Friday he decided that he would drive down and stay over for the night. When he go here he was a little quiet, shy, and frankly a little rude at first, but after we broke the ice it was a really great night, and we had sex pretty much the entire night and again in the morning. The next week (this current week) he texted me and is like a completely different person- not flirty or nice, one word replies, barely tries to make conversation, takes awhile to reply, no good morning or night texts. I asked him if we were okay and if he had a good time on Friday, and he said it was amazing and he still wants to be friends with benefits, so i guess I’m kinda confused as to why he’s so different now. He’s also always the one to text me first and initiate the conversation, so I’m also kinda confused as to why he acts like he barely wants to talk to me when he’s the one who texted me first! Im just wondering if i should end the fwb, or if i did something to turn him off??? SUPER CONFUSED, ANY ADVICE WILL HELP!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think having a better perspective will help. 😉

You met this guy online and the only time you met in person was a hookup. I know you want FWB, but you’re not friends — which is the basis for friends with benefits — so basically, you’re just hook up buddies. Your one month texting online, before meeting to hook up, turns out not to have been the basis for a friendship. So, if you want to be someone he hooks up with if he’s interested, then you’ve got that. But if you want to be friends, I don’t think he’s really interested. 🙁 Ask yourself if this experience has clarified your position on relationships any further. If it has, then hone your goals and go after what you want.

[Brianna675]

thank you!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 🙂

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