[raven1216]

Hi.. About 5 weeks ago, my gf introduced me to this guy at her bf’s place. She told me that he is a great guy and I should meet him. I was skeptical at first but then decided that there is no harm meeting him a group setting. We all went out to horse racing and had a great time. I really enjoyed hanging out with Mr.S (thats his first intial). He seemed very nice and a good listener. I told my gf that I like him. Mr. S even invited all of the girls to come out to his party on saturday, unfortunately we couldn’t make it. Next week, me and buncha other ppl were out and about in the city when my gf’s bf receives a call from Mr.S that he is having another party. I told Brian (my gf’s bf) that we should go since I like him. We all went out to his place. He was very attentive and nice to me. He would find reasons to come up and listen to what I have to say. So far so good huh!! Well, here is the catch. I found out from Brian and one of Mr.S’s friends that he has a gf. It is a long distance relationship and they have been together for 2 years. Mr.S’s friend told me that he needs some pushing to get him to propose to his gf as she is expecting more committment from him. I really really like Mr. S. I mean he is gooffy, talktive and all. Another problem is that the guy who told me about Mr. S’s situation with his gf might be liking me as well. I don’t like the other guy. I like Mr.S. I find reasons to hang out with him. Me, Mr. S, Mr. S’s friend and one of my other guy friend were hanging out on wednesday where Mr.S invited me to his party on saturday. I have a movie date with one of my good friends and was planning to bring him over to Mr.S place. What should I do? I mean I want Mr. S to be little jealous. Please advice.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I’d stay far away from this guy. Okay, so his girlfriend lives far away, but she’s still his girlfriend. Even if he does make a move on you and you two get together, any relationship that starts off in cheating, isn’t likely to go very well. Think about it: wouldn’t you rather be with a guy who takes these things seriously? Who’s to say that he won’t cheat on you, if he’ll cheat on her?

[Ask April Masini]

Whoa, nelly! This guy hasn

[Ethan Morales]

The biggest issue here isn’t jealousy or games it’s that Mr. S is already in a committed relationship. Even if it’s long-distance and complicated, pursuing someone who has a girlfriend is a very risky situation. It can easily lead to hurt feelings, broken trust, and a lot of drama for everyone involved including you.

Trying to make him jealous or manipulate his feelings isn’t healthy for you or for him. It may give a short-term thrill, but it doesn’t build a strong foundation for a relationship. Step back a bit emotionally. Enjoy his friendship and the fun interactions, but don’t pursue him romantically while he’s committed. This protects your heart and keeps you from getting hurt.

Focus on clarity. If he truly likes you and wants something more, he should handle his current relationship first. You don’t need to be the “push” that causes problems between him and his girlfriend. Redirect your energy. Spend time with friends or potential partners who are fully available and interested. This will help you see your own value and avoid waiting on someone who isn’t ready. Keep boundaries. You can enjoy his company without flirting or creating situations to provoke jealousy. Let interactions be friendly, casual, and fun without expectation.

The reality is, any attraction you feel is complicated by his current relationship. Chasing him now is likely to lead to disappointment. The best way to protect yourself and others is to step back and focus on people who can fully reciprocate your feelings.

[Serena Vale]

I know you like him, and he seems fun and attentive. But the reality is, he has a girlfriend. And until he’s single, he’s not actually available, no matter how flirty he seems.

Bringing another guy to make him jealous won’t help you. It won’t make him choose you, it just puts you in a messy situation.

If he wants something with you, he needs to end things on his side first. That’s his responsibility, not yours to push or test.

For now, step back a little. Don’t chase, don’t try to make him jealous. If he becomes single and comes to you honestly, then you can see where it goes. If not, you saved yourself a headache and some heartache.

You deserve someone who’s fully free and choosing you, not someone half-in, half-out with someone else.

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