[christina.beach]

I have been in a relationship w the same guy going on 6 years now. I have three children from a previous maraige. We have been engaged for a year and a half now. We were living together and then he moved out one day said we needed space. Here recently I left him and started dating another man. Things were great but I still loved my ex and my ex was calling and emailing daily saying he didn’t want to lose me and promised to stop drinking as he is a severe alcoholic. I left the other guy went back to my fiance and he moved back home. Well that didn’t even last a month. He went back to drinking and moved back in w his brother. Since then we have continued to be together and he talks about our future a lot and says that if we keep doing well he wants to move back home. However his actions are speaking louder than words I think. My family absolutly hates him but I stand up for him and us. But his family also hates me and the only reason they will give me is because I put him in jail for a domestic charhe three years ago when he was drunk and hurting me. Nothing has ever happened since that day. But now when his dad comes to visit he takes down the pictures of us and of the kids that are always out on display for everyone and hd tells his dad we no longer date. We almost split up the last time he did this a few weeks ago. He promised me then that he would no longer hide us from his dad and stop hiding our pictures when he comes to town. Well he just informed me that when his dad comes to town this weekend that he doesn’t knw if he’s going to take them down amd still wants me to stay away this weekend while he’s here! Should I say screw it and take his actions to mean he will never change or love me the way I deserve or am I reading to much into this.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

You’re really sticking your head in the sand. 😕 You’ve got a fiance or boyfriend and future stepfather for your children who’s a severe alcoholic and he’s been violent with you, hurt you and was thrown in jail for this crime. 😮 That you’re trying to figure out whether or not to be with him is the bigger problem here: You don’t realize that you’ve chosen someone who shouldn’t be around [i]your children[/i], let alone you.

The fact that his family hates you and your family hates him is really just a guide to try and show you the way out of this relationship.

There’s nothing good in this for you or your children. My advice is to wake up and see the writing on the wall. Love has nothing to do with this relationship. Your boyfriend is an alcoholic with a history of violence. Find the exit door and use it today.

I hope this helps. Let em know how you’re doing and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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