Hi April
Iv liked this guy for years & I know he’s been interested for years too but we’ve both been in realationships ( which have been dead end ones for quite some time) . But Recently he started flirting with me , knowing that I had children & possibly in a realationship . He was also in a realationship, which I knew he wasn’t happy with & wanted to find someone else. I was also in the same situation as him.
Few months back he turned the heat up on the flirting so I gave him a bit back for the first time. Next time I seen him he could barely look at me without going all red in the face and grinning all the time. It had been going on a while like this. I never spoke to him much in the past as I was always too shy around him. So any questions he would ask, were always a quick short reply.
The one day we finally got some lone time, he was asking about my family, which he had done the previous 3 times prior to seeing him last. In that conversation we’d been having that day it came out in a roundabout way that it was obvious I was still in a realationship. He left very soon after the conversation and knowing him fairly well his face said it all ( disappointed ) . I knew he was never going to know anything or how I felt about my current relationship.
Looking back naw this is obviously something I deeply regret doing. I got his number off a friend & sent him a flirty msg with a question in it, work related that had occurred that day so he would have known it was me. Two hrs later I got a reply with – ‘ ? ? ‘ but unsure where to go with this, I left it till next day to reply and sent a cheeky msg. I never heard back.
Next time I seen him at work which is every fortnight ,he was very different . Its like he’s let his guard down naw and isn’t too worried in what he’s saying in my companny. He still grins when in my company but much less. But it’s like he’s gave up almost.
In the meantime Iv recently come out of my realationship ( which he is unaware of ) & have also heard he is no longer in one too.
Iv also learnt that his father is very unwell & has been for a few months and theirs no positive out come to it and he getting more & more unwell by the day. So clearly it’s understandable this guy is not in a great place at the moment.
I don’t wanna be wasting my time & energy but if I knew it was worth hanging on in their for , I would . I really care a great deal for this guy & have done for some time. I know iv not just been something to flirt with to past the time recently but with resent events ?? I would really appreciate your input April, of where to go next?
Thanks in advance X
