[Jalle1995]

About 3 months ago I met this amazing and beautiful girl on a dating site. We started to talk a lot everyday and we agreed to meet up on a date, it was perfect and we stayee the night st her place were we kissed and cuddled all night.. we agreee to meet up next week, and I then sent her flowers because i really liked her… She then texted me that she had been thinking about it, and the distance would be a problem, and she needed time to think, so I asked her desperately if she was clear she didnt want to meet again, and she said yes.. So after 2 days I texted her that since she didn’t want to see me, I’m going to remove you on the social media like instagram facebook, snapchat etc. so that I wouldn’t have to be reminded of her every day.. she then texted me that it was very dramatic, and she wasn’t settled after all, and she just needed some time to think, but I didn’t get that at the time, because she told me directly that she was settled, anyways we started to get into a lot of fights and arguments, and it ended with by accident calling her some bad things. Some days later I contactee her and told her how sorry I was, and I explained why I behaved like I did. She then textef me ” i can never forgive you, i feel amazing without you and its silly you contact me again ”
I guess I’m looking for advice of what to do or say to her ? I’m not sure if she ment what she said with the ” I can never forgive you, I feel amazing without you and its silly you contact me agqin ” this she said to me after i apologized for my behavior, and the stupid things I had said.. Its just a bit weird to me, because she fully blocked me on all the social medias right after i apologized to her, and then 2 days later she unblock me ? My first thought was, she maybe wqnts me to like ” fight for my forgivess, thing ” ? i just cant wrap my head around this fact she unblocked me after 2 days, she didn’t contact me or anything.. I really want to text her again, but I feel it doesn’t matter what I say…at this point I feel that I really tried everything, and I might just piss her even more off, if I contact her again ?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like you’ve been communicating and miscommunicating 😕 electronically, so why not break that pattern? Give it a week or two and then send her flowers. That’s going to get her attention and it should have a positive affect. When you’re in a bickering rut where you can’t quite get out of it, change the mode of communication. 🙂 Whether you send her a bouquet of sunflowers, a dozen roses or some bright posies with a balloon or a stuffed animal — by giving her a little gift like this, you’re showing her you’re willing to make a change and you’re still interested. 😀

Social media is great — but it can also be the method for lots of miscommunication and impulsive things “said” that you later wish you could take back, and can’t. That’s why the idea of sending her something that shows your interest and breaks the online issues you’re having, might get you that second date. But if you do get a second date, remember: Dating is competitive, and when you meet someone on a dating site, they’re meeting lots of other folks, as are you, too! So you have to always have your A game going with online dating, so you can win.

I hope that helps!

[Sundus]

I don’t think he needs to say anything more now. Put the phone away, go to the gym, and enjoy your life. If he really needs to talk, she’s already unblocked the way, so she should be the one to text first.
And April was absolutely right that dating is like a game, and the only one who wins is the one who has their ‘A-game’ on. If you want to win, you’ll have to show a little attitude and self-respect; being left behind all the time will make the game go away.

[Cassian Rowe]

Listen, this is an emotional game and not related to clarity right now. Her unblocking does not means that she want to communicate with you. Sometimes, people face the curiosity in this situation and check the boundaries. But in some situation, people want to move from this moment, then it happens. You already explained everything and apologized to her and her words are clear that I can never forgive you and I feel amazing without you.
So, sending more messages now can lose a respect level and create more confusions and could cross her boundaries. The best thing is to give her space. If she want to connect with you, then she will reach out. Forgiveness can not be forced, patience is the only way forward.

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