[Anonymous]

Hello, I have this guy friend who is relatively new in my circle, but I have known him and had mutual friends for years now. I really like spending time with him and we see each other almost every day. We flirt a fair bit and he has expressed a lot of interest in me… the only problem is that he has a girlfriend a couple states away at college. I really can’t figure out what he expects from me because even when she is home he will flirt with me ( a lot) right in front of her. I know that they are often on the rocks because of the distance and all of his friends tell me he likes me. I’m really confused what I should do and could use some advice because I would actually really like to have a chance with him, and while it may sound bad I really want them to break up.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re not going to be the person to break them up. If they break up, it’s because he’s interested in you and she’s not around. People do what they want to do because they feel good about doing it. It’s never really about anyone else. 😉

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[Anonymous]

Thanks, this really helped put it into perspective. I’ll let you know if it works out. :/

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re welcome! 😀 I’m glad I could help.

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[Anonymous]

Are you serious? This advice is sounding a little too Angelina Jolie for our tastes! While you probably aren’t the make it or break it of a relationship that’s obviously already on the rocks, have some self respect and don’t chase after attached guys, no matter how much you like them or how much you think they’re unhappy in their current situation! At best, you end up getting the guy when he’s available to you and you can look yourself in the eye in the morning. At worst, you’ll avoid hitching your wagon to a guy who is co-dependent, doesn’t respect his supposed loved ones, and isn’t a man of his word.

Our advice? Let him know you like him, but you aren’t interested in dating a guy who is already attached. End of story. Don’t explain, don’t tell him to break up with his girl, don’t tell him to call you, and don’t flirt with him.

If he is a good guy worth having, and if he really wants you with good intentions, he’ll split from his current relationship and pursue you on the up and up. I would keep him at arms length for at least a few months. You don’t need to be rebound girl or one-night-stand girl.

If all of this means you lose him. Well, consider yourself lucky for having avoided the pain and heartbreak of being in the same position his current girlfriend is in today, and be happy that you can respect yourself for not being the pointless cause of someone else’s hurt.

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[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think[b] Date Dish Blog[/b] may be projecting from her own life. 😕 Angelina Jolie pursued and got a man who was [i]married[/i]. This situation is very different. These two people are probably in their late teens, and are[i] just dating[/i] in college. [b]In different states no less![/b] Big difference.

I don’t advocate cheating, but it’s important to not waste your time, and if this guy realizes that a relationship he’s in isn’t working and there’s a woman at his college who is interested in him, and he’s interested in her, he should give himself the opportunity to date her. There’s absolutely no point in wasting his time, and his long distance and possibly soon to be ex-girlfriend’s time, if they’re not meant to be. He owes it to himself and his current girlfriend to figure out if they should continue dating.

That said, let’s give the guys some credit here! 😆 Feminine wiles are very powerful, but Brad Pitt didn’t exactly have a gun to his head when he left his wife for Ms. Jolie. Nor did she tackle him, stow him in the back of her SUV and drug him until he divorced his wife. 😉 He actually had some free will to exercise — and so does this guy. In fact, Brad Pitt left his wife (And yes, divorce is sad, but it happens, and it’s never the end of the world — in fact it’s often the beginning of the next chapter!) and went on to have a rich life with Angelina. And frankly, Jennifer Aniston seems to have a pretty good life, herself!

The point is that dating well means making sure you’re with the right person. 😀

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