I appreciate that this is your first time dating and that a lot of this is new to you. I can give you some guidelines about how to date successfully, and maybe some of this will resonate for you. For instance…. always use the first thee months of dating to figure out if you want to continue dating someone. That’s it. The reason to do this is that it takes the pressure off of your relationship to be something it’s not ready to be. Just get to know each other and continue to play the field until you’re sure this is a relationship you want to be monogamous and committed to — usually around the sixth month of dating. That’s why, since this is only the second month of dating, if you find that he’s not as interested in you as he was initially, or he’s not spending as much time and energy on you as he was, previously, instead of taking him to task for this, consider that you’re learning something about him and his feelings, and sit back instead of leaning in, and recalibrate.
Another good rule to follow is to not have “the talk” with him — ever! Guys hate having the talk, and I think you’re feeling uncomfortable with yourself for having initiated the talk because you’re feeling now that it might have put undue pressure on him. It’s not that you shouldn’t be open and honest — but timing is important. Sometimes it’s better to wait on the open and honest expressions until the relationship is more mature — and using the 3 month mark to decide if you want to continue dating, and the 6 month mark to decide if you want to be monogamous, is a good way to gauge the relationship’s maturity.
Let me know if you have any other questions!
