I asked for an advice here weeks ago about my bf saying that he was confused. I went to his place yesterday and finally had some answers. He said he can’t be someone. Even with me. Or with any woman. He said he sees himself alone for the rest of his life. I don’t really understand. I asked him why did he pursue me in the first place and he said that he thought he would be happy again. He said it’s the same. So this whole time it wasn’t his exes that had a problem, but it was him.
I told him we can start again. Not now but maybe once he is ready. He just shook his head and said “you need to live”. I then asked him, “what now? You are breaking up with me? Because I am not going to do it. I am holding on to this.” He did not say anything. I am willing to wait for him but I told him that sooner or later my patience will run out. He unblocked my number and he replied if I message him. As much as I am glad that I have some answers for his behavior that made me crazy for two weeks, I still don’t understand this whole “I see myself alone forever” thing. My friends told me that he might be saying that becauase he might be with someone else. I can’t let him and I know this sounds foolish but I know in my heart that he’ll come back.
I even told him that I don’t want to open my heart to someone else. He said he won’t do the same because he won’t let anyone near his heart ever. Sometimes I think he is just trying different types of girls and he uses that “I can’t be happy with someone” to validate his excuse. I also associate it to the fact that he is still young (he’ll be 24 on April and I’ll be 26 in June), and at this age he still needs to mature. I let him be for a while because he is still not okay.
