[Anonymous]

Hi, I am 26 year old girl. I am pretty… i have always been very popular among guys and most of them ended up asking me out. I am a very romantic person. Although my adolescence, I believed that love will happen to me like it does in movies, and I just waited for someone to sweep me off my feet. I had a lot of crushes, but the problem is that I never found any one interesting enough and so I never got into a relationship. One year back, I met this guy I really liked. He was my senior at my college and he selected me for a Voluntary Group and mentored me there. Initially he would not talk to me much and keep our conversations limited to the work. He was rude to me. However very soon, we started chatting online. He would always ping me when I was online and we would end up talking for hours. But face to face, we still shared an uncomfortable relationship… I used to get very nervous when he was around and we could not talk much. On our chats, he told me he had a girlfriend and how he was facing problems in the relationship because she wanted to get married to him, and he didn’t want to get married. He said there was a lot he had to do in his career before he got married, and that he’s too young for getting married…( he’s my age). Then one day, we had gone for a work related visit, and while coming back, he spoke about all his previous relationships (he has had a lot of girlfriends, and he has dated quite a lot of girls as well). After that, he would keep insisting that how I knew everything about him and he didn’t know much about me. Then he told me he had broken up with his girl friend because she ditched him and went out with someone else. After this, we started talking even more online… Our chats became more longer and he would tell me several times how pretty I looked. He would keep asking me if I found someone nice as yet or not. Sometimes he would advice me to find a nice guy for myself. He once asked me why he talks so much to me. He would call me late at night (like 3 or 4 in the mornings) after getting drunk and would say nothing much that time… sometimes he would just call up and say, hey were u sleeping.. ok fine go back to sleep.
I was pretty sure he’s going to ask me out very soon… but he never did. He eventually passed out of the college at the end of the year. He still calls me every now and then, and we would talk for hours. He tells me he doesn’t want a girlfriend now. He still gives me drunk calls (though not as frequently… but yes he called me again at 3 am this month). He is very unpredictable… sometimes, he talks like he’s totally into me, and sometimes, he is rude. I like him very much… I cried a lot when he was leaving. I still like him very much… but I don’t know what’s up with this guy and what I should do now. If this thing is not happening then I want to move on… I need to find the love of my life. Does he like me? if he does, then what is keeping him from asking me out? The problem is that no matter how hard I try, I have been unable to get over him. And now I want to put an end to this suffering and move on. Please advise me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He’s using you as an emotional crutch. He doesn’t like you enough to ask you out. He has plenty of experience with women and knows how to get a date if he wants one, and (I’m sorry, but) he doesn’t want to date you, which is why he doesn’t. If he did, you’d clearly jump at the opportunity.

You deserve a boyfriend who actually wants to respect and cherish you. This guy is using you. He won’t stop until you do. It’s time for you to stop taking his calls, which is the first step to ending your misery. Read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] so you understand men’s behavior and also learn how to attract Mr. Right.

I hope that helps. Please let me know how things go — and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[tinaislost]

Thanks April, it did make a lot of sense… guess I was just wasting my time here! Thanks again for giving such a sincere and honest reply! Although it would be a little difficult, i am now going to end all kind of communication with him.
Regards,
Tina

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m glad I could help! 😀 Good luck. I hope it all goes well — let me know how things play out for you!

I hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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