[goffmj69]

Ive been dating my gf for 8 months and its been pretty good until the last 5 weeks. She says she feels like im too into her and thats making her build this wall up. She wishes that she could just let it down and and accept how good i treat her but her last 2 relationships werent soo great for her. So i’ve always tried to spoil and treat her extra special but as of late she’s pulling away from me.I ask her if we’re ok and she always says yes she just wants to go slower. How can we start soo strong then slow down soo quick? Am i chasing her too much? Ive told her i loved her and that might have been a mistake although she says that makes her feel wanted.

She still texts me every morning with a kiss and talk but she used to send me many texts during the day and its cooled off a lot. But im the one that asking her to do thing or texting more. Should i stop texting first and dont reply soo fast when she does? How can i have her chase me or want to miss me more?

[AskApril Masini]

How old are you both?

[goffmj69]

we are both in our late 30’s

[goffmj69]

late 30’s

[AskApril Masini]

If you’re both in your late 30s, and you’ve been dating for 8 months, and [i]now[/i], she’s wanting to slow things down, it sounds like she’s not that into you. I’ve always said that nice guys finish last, and that it’s usually a good idea to not be so available, and to have a life that you enjoy that’s yours alone — but at your ages, and after eight months, it really sounds like she’s having second thoughts. Focus on what it is you want from the relationship, and then figure out if she’s got compatible goals. If you’re looking for marriage and kids, and she’s not, you may be running up against a deal breaker, and that’s why she’s putting the brakes on the relationships — because she doesn’t like where it’s going and doesn’t want the same thing.

Take a second look at your compatibility and and the goals you both have for yourselves and for a relationship, and ask yourself if this is someone worth spending more energy on, or not. If the answer is yes, you want to continue, than consider not being the nice guy, not being available, and not being there for her as much as you have. 😉 I hope that helps!

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