[jamcaraidrow]

I found out my husband cheated on me the other day with an old friend from school. I found out having to get into his email to verify on of our online bills and saw all the messages sent from her to his facebook. It was my own being snoopy that found it out, but I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to accuse him, even though I have no doubt of his infidelity. From what I can tell it was a one time booty call thing. Should I confront him, leave it be, or what. My initial reaction was to not say anything, but cut him off from sex, but I imagine that will not make the situation better.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You have to decide what you want the outcome to be. Cutting a cheating husband off from sex will most likely make him stray further, and I don’t think that’s really what you want. 😳

There are three problems here: One is that he cheated on you. Two is that he kept it secret from you. Three is what parts you BOTH played in this outcome.

I don’t think you’re going to be able to hold this new knowledge you have, inside. I think you need to talk to him about what you found out and how you found it out and listen to what he has to say. Right now you’re doing a lot of guessing and with something this important, it’s much better to have some good communication going so you can both try and be honest about your feelings, your responsibilities and your shared goals for the relationship.

I hope that works. Let me know how it goes, and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook: [url][/url]. 🙂

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