[Selenagomez]

Isit okay for a guy to adore another woman(artist) when he is in a relationship? I mean like he keeps on stalking her ig and fb day/night behind my back. I did checked on his history(bcoz i will clear it for him) and i keep on seeing this persons name all the time. And sometimes during our convo, he sometimes did mention a few times abt her indirectly to me, but i knew he was reffering to “her”. How i know coz i do check on her too. Whatever he said really matches her for example “her hair colour, where she went to, her favourite song. And he did went out behind with just to go watch her just becoz i dont let him to. I know i shouldnt feel insecure abt it but if every little things resemble her, i feel like im just someone he needs when he is lonely or just a place for him to feel “loved”. Please help. I couldnt help but to feel so so insecure becoz he checks on her every single night!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like you have competition! He has a crush on another woman, and you have a head’s up that he’s got a romantic interest elsewhere. If you set up an ultimatum or try to control him, you’ll lose him. Instead, accept the competition, and be the girlfriend who wins him over. 😎 I know that you’re upset about this, and even angry, but you have to take an outlook that gets you what you want — not loses it for you. Whenever you competition, turn up your A game instead of trying to control someone you shouldn’t be controlling. You’ve been dating for a year now and competition is a part of dating and of life. Embrace it and play to win. 🙂

[Swera Khan]

AskApril said, “Accept the competition,” but my advice is, “Make the competition irrelevant.” When you compete with someone else, you’re putting this artist in the third chair in your relationship, and she doesn’t even deserve a chair!
If he wants to stalk her at night? Fine. You focus on your skincare routine, your hobby, or a new skill. While he’s on his phone, get busy with your “glow-up.” When he looks up tired and sees that you’re not hungry for his attention, but rather the “queen” of your own world, he’ll automatically run after you.
Turn your insecurity into a “mystery.” Remember, when a man feels like his woman might slip away from him because she is only focusing on herself, that artist-warrior forgets everything and comes back to you.

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