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Hello. I am 20 and in a serious relationship with a guy since 4 years, We are in a long distance relationship since 2 years. My partner loves me a lot. i sometimes feel that he is too obssessed with me. Recently, I have met a guy in my music class, He is 25 yrs old really handsome,humourous, full of life. We started talking n i found that we have so many things in common, he seems just so perfect for me sometimes but I cant really give up on my long term partner cause i love him a lot. i really like this guy. I have plans to shift to USA after a year, but this new guy have no plans for USA he wants to stay in India. He knows that I am serious about my partner but he keeps telling me to spend most of the quality time with him till I am in India as aftr that anyhow I’ll be with my partner In USA. Whenever i share my realtionship problems with this guy he claims that he really likes me a lot and if i were in India he would want to have future with me. What do i do now? Is it right for me to go out with this new guy without letting my partner know? Is it okay if i just have an emotional attachment with this guy till i am in India and not letting my present partner know anything about this so it doesnt mess up things between us? What do i do? I really cant leave my partner cant really control my feelings for the other guy. But I just cant see my present partner getting hurt as he is really sensitive to such issues.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This really has to do with what you want in a relationship. If you want monogamy, then your answer is clear. But if you want monogamy that leads to marriage, and you’ve been with the same guy for four years and there is no marriage in sight, then maybe your long distance boyfriend doesn’t want marriage and you don’t have the same goals. And if you’re just dating because you like dating, then you should absolutely date the new guy who is in town.

Whether or not you tell your long distance boyfriend that you’re playing the field, has to do with how serious you are about him. If he finds out, you probably know what his reaction will be, so consider your goals, the nature of the relationship and then whether or not you should date this new guy and tell your long distance boyfriend about him.

[Swera Khan]

Keeping your partner in the dark and hanging out with the new guy is cheating on them. If the new guy seems so “perfect,” then be brave and end the old relationship. Stop riding in two boats either be 100% faithful, or move on.
And AskApril is right about whether to tell or not; it’s up to you how serious you are about your LDR partner. it up to you to date the new guy and then decide whether to tell or not.

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