[Anonymous]

[First time here]
So I’m a junior in high school and the girl I like is a senior, I’ve known her for a while but we’ve recently been getting to know each other well around this summer. We have a lot of good laughs and conversations, which brings me to the fear or believing of getting too far into the “friend zone”. We usually go hanging out at movies and what not, sometimes with friends, sometimes not. I never can tell if she is interested in me or not because there is a lot of joking around. I’m also downed by the fact that she points out that I’m a bit younger and not on the same level as her. Seeing as how she is a senior, I feel like there could be the possibility of me not gaining enough confidence to ask her in time. For some people it might be easy to ask but we go together so perfectly that it brings in the fear of rejection and then having an awkward relationship then on. We could possibly become best friends later in the school year, but before that happens I would like some advice on how and where should I ask, plus tips on gaining confidence to do so.

Thanks so much

[inlove2010]

Hey there! I would suggest going for it, tell her you have feelings for her other than a friend. She is a senior and will be going to college, or doing whatever, but not in high school next year. Talk to her when you alone and know there won’t be many distractions. Too, you should make sure you are ok with just being friends if she isn’t interested and tell her that. You only live once and trust me, you will feel so good after asking her. You don’t want a year to go by and have any regrets about not asking her. Hope this helps!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I like[b] inlove2010[/b]‘s advice that you should live your life with no regrets! 🙂 Rejection is part of life, and you should find a way to make it your friend — not your enemy. If you fear rejection, you’ll live a life full of missed opportunities and never get the confidence you crave. That confidence comes from handling rejection and realizing it’s not going to kill you — in fact, it’s going to let you know if this woman really wants you as a boyfriend or not! And if she doesn’t, you can handle that rejection because you know how terrific you are and that some other woman is going to want you if she doesn’t! So, you see, rejection can actually HELP you build that confidence, and so can winning the date from her, too. In fact, facing fear and coming out the other side regardless of the outcome is what will make you confident enough to do anything!

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes.

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