A guy I work with had been seriously injured (off the job) and i sent him a get well card after i heard about his injury. He called me a couple of weeks later and left a message saying thank you for the card. I did not call him back. While I was on a site visit recently, he came over to chat with me. At first we were just talking about work stuff in the breakroom then he asked me to go outside and talk. I really felt like we had a connection and that he was trying to get to know me on a personal level. He asked me some personal questions, made a point during the conversation to tell me he did not have a girlfriend, asked my age,asked about my son, looked at me direct in the eyes even during awkward pauses his eyes stayed fixated on mine, and then when I was leaving he gave me a hug (I thought that for sure was a sign he was interested). A few days later, I sent him a pm on Facebook. It was a totally benign message sharing some work info with him (we work at different sites and rarely see each other, also he does not have a company email address). I Made the first move (so to speak) because I thought he might be intimidated to do so (more on that in a bit). It’s been 5 days and no response. Now when I go to look him up on fb he doesn’t pull up in search — I am not blocked because I can still see he has a profile from my message to him. Coincidence? I must also mention two other things — the last time I saw him before this (3 months prior) I was married and I think he knew that, but I have since separated from my husband and was not wearing a ring when we spoke last week, the other is that I hold a much higher level position in the company than him (one of authority over his specific area and others). At this point, I feel like a fool and am completely backing away. He knows where to find me if he wants to and how to contact me should he want to get in touch. However, I am confused. Did I completely misread the signs? Should i look too much into him changing search access on his fb page? It’s been a long time since I’ve had to evaluate these kinds of things…
