[tinaislost]

Hi April,
I have a very close friend and I am very confused about what I feel about him… I like him a lot, I am attracted towards him physically. I get jealous when I see him talking to someone else. I love spending time with him. I love talking to him and end up talking to him for hours. we were always friends but we came really close when both of us were getting over of our previous relationships and that is where my confusion stems from… we came close while talking about our ex-s. are my feelings for him actually affection rising out of proximity… you know, like forced infatuation? Is this because we are in the rebounding phase? should I keep us restricted to the safe “friend zone”? I am not sure if I really love him because I wasnt attracted to him before I started talking about my lovelife. and sometimes feel my attraction for him is rising out of convenience. at the same time, i have never really felt so close to any of my friends. it’s been 5 months that we have been really good friends. Can you please help me with this?

[tinaislost]

I guess I forgot to mention that i know he likes me a lot as well. He is an introvert and doesn’t share much with anyone but for me. there’s a good chance that he also may have a crush on me. of late, I have been so confused about what I feel for him for the last 3-4 days that it is affecting our friendship. I have been acting aloof and sad and he has been asking me what’s wrong with me and I don’t how to answer him. Now it seems it is his turn. He ignored me completely today and won’t talk to me. Please help April!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If your friend wants to ask you out on a date, he will. It sounds like he likes you, but he isn’t ready to date you — or else he isn’t interested in dating you. What you’ve done, however, is to confuse yourself (and him) by treating him like a friend, instead of what you’d like him to be — a date! 😉

My advice is to do some damage control — or at least try. Think about the way you’d treat a guy you just met that you were interested in. You’d flirt. You wouldn’t let him into the friend zone — so you wouldn’t hang out with him, but you would accept a date from him.

Re-group and present yourself to him as a potential girlfriend — but never a friend. You’re going to have to stop being his friend because that isn’t working (it never does). But that doesn’t mean you’re out of his life — it means you’re someone different to him, now. You’re the flirtatious, attractive woman, who’s giving him chase — not throwing herself at him and then wondering why he doesn’t ask you to dinner. 🙂

I hope this helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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