[Socaljenn]

My boyfriend of almost three years told me several weeks ago that he felt that he needed some time away from the relationship after I asked him why he had been being so distant. He has been pretty insecure and protective for our entire relationship and is very uncomfortable with me having male friends or acquaintances. About 8 months ago we broke up for about a week after he had made some inappropriate comments on Facebook. He is now saying that he never really got over that and has just let things go since that time. He stated that he needs some time to get his life back in order and work on some things for himself. He stated that he wanted to leave the door open to continuing our relationship in the future, but also brought up the possibility of seeing other people. I have no idea what to do. I feel so hurt and confused and just feel like I’m in limbo. I’ve been respecting his request for space and we have had extremely limited contact (maybe 5 texts in the past 3 weeks). I don’t know if I should continue to not contact him and just try to move on, or if I should let him know that I’m here for him and will wait until he figures out what he needs to. I don’t want to wait forever though I’ve already spent 3 years of my life with him and I’m already 30 and am not getting any younger.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Time to move on. You’ve invested three years in this relationship and he’s not sure if you’re Ms. Right — in fact, he wants a break to test the waters. 😕 You have an agenda: You want a monogamous relationship and probably children, since you mentioned your age, and you should make sure you find someone who has the same goals in the same time frame. 😉

I know it’s difficult to accept the break up and just move on, but it’s what’s best for you right now, and if you stick around waiting for someone who after three years, isn’t quite sure and can’t even give you a definitive break up, you’re going to be angry at yourself when it eventually does fizzle out completely.

Start this new year by focusing on your relationship goals and finding Mr. Right. 😉

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[Pamela1234]

Sad to read this. I am going through same after 5 years. He broke the engagement citing he wants to get thngs in other and then come back to me. Can you imagine-I should wait for him and who knows how long. I am 33 from Maine. My clock is ticking really fast.

How did you get over him?
How long did it take?
Do still talk to him or should I talk to him when he wants back?
How did you get back to dating?
Have found Mr.Right yet? How is it out there? I am so scared.

Thanks.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[b]Pamela1234[/b], if you want me to answer your questions, you should start a new string of questions that is just for you. I’m happy to respond to you there, when you do. 😉

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