Thanks for the time you take helping those of us in need, April.
A little about me: I’m 24 and kind of a goody-goody. I’ve only ever been in one relationship (I’m very selective). I’m asked out often and have been mistaken many times as a model, so I’m confident in my appearance, but I’m just not the typical party girl/club-goer you find in my generation (in fact, I don’t drink). When I met this guy, whom I’ll call Matt, I felt that “spark” that I hear people talk about. It took me off guard since I’d never experienced it before. However, maybe it’s because I was so focused on class and so very rarely like a guy, I didn’t think too much of it. We had class together and we’d talk before class sometimes, and he sat next to me a couple days when we were allowed to switch seats. Then the semester ended and I didn’t think much except that he was a nice guy and kinda cute.
The following month, we had a summer class together. Seeing him again somehow reignited things in me and I found myself really liking him. I sat next to him one day in class and talked to him a bit, but things felt different from his end. He ended up missing a few days of class (which turned out to be due to a family trip), and when he came back it was like a switch had flipped. We talked a lot, I offered to catch him up on what he’d missed and he accepted, he started sitting next to me every single day in class, waited for me after class, and I tried to drop hints to help him out. There was a movie he wanted to see, and I mentioned I really wanted to see it too, but he didn’t take that opening. Against my better judgement, I decided to bite the bullet and asked if he wanted to go see the movie with me, to which he responded that he’d already made plans to see it with friends. That sucked, but it was almost the end of the semester, and I had mentioned already that we’d never have another class together again (since I’m on a different graduation schedule from everyone else). I thought for sure he wouldn’t want to “never” see me again and that, if he were shy or afraid of awkwardly having classes with someone after rejection, that fear would be removed.
Nothing happened on the last day of class. We’d already been exchanging emails (about class), so I knew he had my email address, but I sent him an email the day after class had ended, saying I hoped we’d keep in touch, and I gave him my number. When I didn’t hear from him for a few days, I took it as a lost cause and decided to just forget about him. But after a week and a half, he randomly added me to his Google Plus (where he only has 20-something friends, most of whom are guys). I know he’s a Taurus and the stereotypes surrounding how long they take to actually ask someone out, but I’m just so confused by all of these mixed signals. Is he intimidated? Just a slow mover? Not that into me? Thanks for your insight.
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