[Anonymous]

April,

I am a military male with a dilemma. I have been talking with an old friend of mine recently that I knew from a summer camp that we used to attend. I have always been attracted to her, but never really started anything with her because in middle school and high school she lived about 45mins away from me. Now, she is almost finished with her masters degree and I am almost finished with my training. However, we have been talking over the phone and via text message for a while now and I’m going back home for the holidays, but only for a little over a week. We set up a day and time to meet up when I come back. We have a lot in common and I would really like to take things to the next level, but I am afraid that it might ruin our friendship. Also, since I now live 1500 miles away, I don’t know if I will be forcing something that isn’t there, especially with the distance.
What would you do?

Thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Ask her if she’d like to have dinner with you and if she says yes, take that as a hint that she’s interested in a date, too! Then make the date at a romantic restaurant that will set the scene for your next level — dating! Pick her up, open doors for her, bring her flowers or a single rose when you meet her, and be the prince charming that you’d envision yourself courting the princess that you’d like her to be for you. 😉

I hope that helps and that you have a great date!

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[Anonymous]

Alright I will try that but do you think 10 days will be enough time to kindle a relationship before I have to leave to go back?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I can’t give you a guarantee — which I think is what you want — but if you play your cards right and take the risk by dialing up the romance, and she is in turn receptive and encouraging, then you’ll get what you want. The trick is to balance what you already have with what you want it to become. Relationships are like dances — you can’t do them alone, and the grace of your dance is dependent on how you lead, how she follows and what tools you each bring to the table and share.

Good luck!

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