[Anonymous]

My bf of 4 1/2 years sent me an email telling me that a friend of him which is married was coming to visit him with her daughter, he said I will take two days off to take them out of town, he said dont worry is just a friend and I will never do anything to hurt you, after he said yes you can come with us he decided to sent me another email saying I want to go by myself, he didnt event allow me to go with him and meet them at the airport, he said I will introduce you to them late at night, of course was so late that I didnt even see them. What he didnt imagine is that I knew the lady coming to pay the visit is a lady he use to date long time ago, was a long distance relationship that didnt last but still, he doesnt know… I know the truth, I am just playing around with him pretending that I believe him, well he went to pick them up at the airport saturday and he spent the whole day with her and her daughter and he didnt even care or bother to call me, the next day they headed out of town and he didnt even bother to call me, I am devastated, I have been crying the whole weekend over this situation, and wondering how can a person can be so rude not to call his gf to say at least hi, so I decided to call him, finally when he decided to return the call hours later, we talk briefly and I ask him, I would like to say hi to your friend, I talk to her briefly and I said I will meet you very soon. After spending my weekend in mourning I just realize this is unaceptable, I will loose my dignity just to think about going to his apartment which is the apartment we share on the weekends and see another woman there, a woman that travel with my man at his expense, he pays for the hotel, dinner, outings and I know this because he told me, a woman that didnt even care about my feelings, because is no way that I can go in a road trip with a man that I completely know has a gf and just dont even say to him “you should call your gf”, I just want an advice do you think I am wrong, do you think I should ignore him and go on with the relationship, do you think I should meet this woman who is taking my place for almost a week..or I just dissapear from their live, they are spending 3 days y la, and coming back this wednesday, staying at his apartment and she is leaving the country back to her place on saturday….please help….

[Ask April Masini]

Don’t blame her. This isn’t her fault. You don’t have the three year relationship with her. The reality is that your boyfriend is interested in this other woman and is making it very clear to you. I think this is a sign that he’s not as serious about you as you may have thought. My advice is to accept this and move on.

I’m sorry. I think you’re not so confused as you are devastated, hurt and disappointed. You have every right to be, but don’t take those hurt feelings and act dumb. Don’t meet her. Don’t confront her. Don’t call her again.

Just move on.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go.

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[Badfinger]

I agree with April, this guy was a total ignoramus on this one and I’d tell him ‘I’m not stupid, it’s over, goodbye, jerk!’1
(kept it clean)
Unforgivable situation in my mind too, I’m sorry you got put in that predicament.

[Ask April Masini]

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