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Hi April, I met this guy through a dating site and we got along well. I like him very much and he said he was instantly attracted to me and liked me too. He recently asked me to “be in his life”, but he preferred that I maintain my place (I live by myself) and just come and stay at his place whenever we want to see each other. I have not responded to him yet. I’m confused because he knows that I live far from his place, it’s inconvenient for me to go back and forth between my home, work and his place. I wonder why he didn’t ask me to move in with him. I have a good job, he knows that if I have to pay for part of the expenses, it’s not an issue. Do you think that he just wanted a fling with me and not a long term relationship? Should I ask him what his plans are before answering him and how do I put it? I’m not pressing for marriage or anything, just a committed relationship. Thanks.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It doesn’t sound like you’ve ever dated. 😯 From what you describe he isn’t interested in a commitment to you. My advice is to move on.

As for your confusion. Read Think & Date Like A Man: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It will help you understand how men and women date — and how to do so to win! Your confusion should be easily eliminated when you realize he hasn’t dated you or offered you any kind of commitment. When a man wants a relationship, he’ll act like it. 😉 From what you described he’s not really interested. Attraction isn’t commitment.

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