[istillluvhim]

I dated this guy for 2 years.. it was rocky and unstable. We both had to mature. I was suffering from PTSD and was in my darkest hours, when he left and i completely understand that. I seeked help out of state and he continued to txt me and he would not stop contact. So I was advised to have “no contact” that lasted 2 years. (with him making an attempt every month via text) After 2 years I finally had replied back, after working on myself and getting my life together. We have been trying to be friends since. I always wait for him to text me I don’t initiate anything. A few things that have been said since we have been friends on his part: If we would have been still together he thinks we would have been married, he could see us dating in the future, his friend was interested in me and he put a stop to that real quick, constantly tells me if only i knew.. etc. Last night I went to his house to go on his boat with my friends and once we were there and drinking, we pulled up to pick up someone up to get on the boat with us.. Little did I know he had my X-best friend waiting at the dock. I had made it clear that I didn’t want this to ever happen and he ignored that and did it anyways. I got off the boat ready to leave and my ex best friend talked to me. And because I was drinking I knew I shouldn’t drive. So i stayed the night.. meanwhile I had a convo with my ex and told him that i was mad and he made excuses and said sorry and all but then said something weird he said that i was the only one who he really wanted to come out that night.. he sends all these signs but I keep saying i just want to be friends. when deep down I still love him and want to try again. But I don’t know after what just happened if i should remain friends and keep distance (1-3 weeks with little communication)_ or if i should cut him out completely like i did for two years?? Im also thinking that if I do decide to cut him out completely should I either send him a txt message or talk to him in person about having no contact.. because he didn’t listen the first time I did no contact… it drove him crazy and no matter what anyone says he still has to have feelings for me if he didn’t get a clue after the first couple months that I wasn’t gonna talk to him.. it lasted two years every month with txts.. Im confused and dont know what to do!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Men and women can’t be friends. One person in the “friendship” usually has more feelings than the other, and it’s a lot harder to communicate and to move on if you remain friends with an ex. I think you’re suffering from exactly that — trying to stay friends with someone you dated, broke up with, are still in love with and aren’t sure what to do with. [i]Anyone[/i] would be confused in your shoes!

My advice is to break off contact and move on with your own life. You’ll have a much easier time if you look ahead instead of backwards. 😉

[b]Everyone likes to be liked! If the advice you found on AskApril.com was helpful “like” us on FB — and tell a friend!
[url][/url][/b]

[Member]

Posts