[OcAngel]

[color=#BF0080]Hi y’all.! Let me tell you about myself and the boy I am hopelessly smitten with. Let’s just call myself Raye. I am 17 years old and a senior in high school. This is my 3rd High School I’ve gone to- I’ve also been to 4 middle schools and 3 elementary schools. I consider myself to be a cross between a Southern Belle and a City Chick; I have the morals and fun, outgoing, classy personality of a Southern Belle and the sass and fashion sense of a City Chick. I’m the type of girl who will shop at the mall in a hot pink dress and heels all day then ride my 4-wheeler in some cutoff blue jean shorts and boots at night. I recently moved to this Beach Town (lets call it that) from my small-town southern home and am so out of place with all these surfers high on “ganja.”

Then there’s “Andy”. He is 16, a junior in high school, and has lived here all his life. But, he’s quite the opposite of a beach bum. He is a Fire Cadet/EMT, ROTC Officer, Choir Singer, Rifle Team, a Skier, and a Writer (how we initially bonded, actually). He is very sweet, considerate, respectful, and a down-to-earth kind of guy. True, he’s younger than me, but you could honestly never tell. He treats me with more respect than any other human being has- including my mother. He’s just a God-fearing, pure, wholesome young man.

3 nights ago, he invited me to go with him to a Haunted Trail (along with his 2 guy friends “Dalton” and “Ben”). I went and had a BLAST with them.! Andy even put his head on my shoulder, let me wear his jacket, let me listen to music on his iPod, and walked behind me the whole time (protecting me, of course, haha). Now, he, my best guy friend “Dougie”, my best girlfriend “Red” (Red and Dougie are together), and I are all making plans to hang out as a group. Red and I are also going to Andy’s Halloween Party on Halloween. I am very excited to grow closer to Andy.

Here’s where it gets confusing. About a week ago, I called a psychic. I told her about “Andy”. She told me that Andy and I are soulmates and we were married in a past life. Me, being a huge zodiac and horoscope believer, am beside myself with joy. She then told me that he would ask me out to do something soon, and 2 days later, he invited me to his party. He then invited me to the trail the following night. So I feel very good and certain about my connection with Andy, but, I’m afraid he might not. I can’t tell. He send me mixed signals.

Sometimes I feel like Andy might still like his ex-girlfriend, “Amanda.” But then, Amanda (being 15 and a sophomore) is constantly getting drunk and high, which Andy highly disapproves of and refuses to talk to her when she is like that. I also used to be friends with Amanda when I first moved here about 6 months ago- however I don’t feel like Amanda likes me anymore. Sometimes she likes me, and sometimes she gives me dirty looks. It’s very strange- especially since she is so much younger than me. I don’t want Andy to be with her- I want him to be with me, of course, but honestly I feel like he deserves so much more than a child to be with him.

All of my friends know I like Andy. And they all.. pressure Andy, honestly. They constantly talk to him about me and all that. My friend Red even DM’ed him on Instagram, asking about me I assume. When I ask her what he and she said to one another, she refuses to tell me then says “Just keep flirting.!” but it’s honestly so annoying. I think Andy MIGHT like me, but then again I feel like he doesn’t. Whenever one of my friends makes a stab at us being together (ex: Dougie talking about “Love is in the Air” when Andy and I were talking, Dalton saying “Andy and Raye should cuddle- might get scary”), Andy brushes it off (ex: Completely avoided the topic, “No one is cuddling here, hahaha”) So it’s honestly really confusing.

Here’s my question.[b] How do I know when to stop trying.? Is it okay to tell him how I feel or is it too soon.? Could the psychic be wrong.?[/b]

I want to be with Andy. I want to make him happy. I want him to know that I will be the greatest and most supportive thing that has ever happened to him. I want him to want ME. What do I do…

–Raye(:[/color]

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think the best thing for you to do is to play the numbers game. 😉 Since you’re not getting the response you want, spread out and play the field. Flirt with other guys, and while you may find someone else you like, you may also create a situation where Andy sees you’re not desperate and you’re not so focused on him, and the idea that you’re attractive to other guys, and are open to dating other young men, may actually make you more attractive to him. Sometimes guys like what they think they can’t have. 😎 So continue being polite, upbeat and flirtatious, but don’t spend all your energy on him. The world is your oyster, and you should make it that way. I have a feeling he may want to chase after you if you actually give him something to chase. 😉

[OcAngel]

Awesome- thank you very much.! I will try to do that, but it’s really annoying because I tend to “put all my eggs in one basket”. But I’ll try (:

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like it might just be worth your time, energy and psychic investment to focus yourself on [i]not[/i] putting all your eggs in one basket. It’s annoying to you to have to do so, because it requires work, and you don’t want to do the work — I get it. That’s normal. We all look for the easy way out. But… successful relationships do require work, and often require you to make changes in your own behavior if you want to see better returns on your investment. 😀

Let me know how things go, and if you have any more questions, just ask!

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