[HUMA]

Hi April,
I have seen some great advice so here I go….
Met a girl online back in August. We exchanged a few emails but didn’t go any further. Recently I saw her on line and emailed her again. We emailed, texted amd have spoken on the phone. We met 2 weeks ago for coffee, had a great time , asked her if she would like to go out and she said yes. I texted her after telling her it was great meeting her and the wait was definitely worth it. She agreed.
We aren’t texting everyday. I get the feeling she is interested.
I asked to go out on the following Friday and she was pretty sure she could. In the meantime we were going to meet for coffee during the week.
A couple days before while texting she said she just got an emailed and had to do something w her child and couldn’t meet. I said no problem we still on for Friday. She said she thought she told me she had to go out of town to see a gf who recently moved. I told her w kids and hectic schedules we have to be flexible and she thanked me for understanding.
Told her I’d love to take her out to dinner and something fun when she got back . She said that would be great. I did text her several days later wished her a good trip and to let me know when she was back so we could make plans. That was last Thursday. I haven’t heard from her. Do I call/text? Give it a few days? I appreciate any advice.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Call her up and ask her to go out on a date on a specific day at a specific time! In other words, make a date. 😉

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[HUMA]

Hi and thanks for the quick response.
I called and left her a message before I heard back from you. I just said I hope she had fun on her trip, just wanted to touch base give me a call when you get a chance. Would you have left a specific date night on the message? oh well, I’ll see if she calls me back.
I think it’s a fine line between showing interest and being to available. What are your thoughts concerning that?
I don’t want to feel like I am the one always calling or texting first.
Thanks

[HUMA]

Hi thanks for the quick response.
While waiting to hear from you I did call and left a message hoping she had a nice weekend and to call when she had a chance.
Would you have left a message asking about a specific date and time? If so, oh well I’ll have to see what happens I guess.
So if I don’t hear back this time, do I ever give it another shot?
Would you ever say I wish you would just told me you weren’t interested. Instead of just disappearing?
In general is a fine line showing interest and being too available. Texting doesn’t help this issue. What are you thoughts on that issue?
Again, thanks for your insight

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]Would you have left a message asking about a specific date and time? If so, oh well I’ll have to see what happens I guess.
So if I don’t hear back this time, do I ever give it another shot?[/quote]

You were right not to leave a time and date on the answering machine. It would look too eager. If she calls back, then ask her out on the date. If she doesn’t, then move on and find someone who’s interested and available. Dating is a numbers game, so don’t put all your eggs in one basket. 😉

[quote]Would you ever say I wish you would just told me you weren’t interested. Instead of just disappearing? [/quote]

No. You haven’t dated yet, so it’s presumptuous for you to comment on her behavior. If you’ve been dating for a while, and you know each other better, then it’s appropriate, but not now.

[quote]In general is a fine line showing interest and being too available. Texting doesn’t help this issue. What are you thoughts on that issue?[/quote]

Being too available means texting daily, calling daily, and not having other options.

I hope that helps!

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