Hi April, I have an issue with my boyfriend who I’ve been dating for the last two years. I am a spontaneous person and am perfectly happy to create plans last minute, however he doesn’t. If he wants to do something he’ll need to have it planned a couple days in advance. This really puts a downer on things when I suggest he stays over if he’s near my location, as he usually opts for not coming because we didn’t ‘plan’ it. It’s getting to the point where he’s giving me a message that I don’t seem to mean that much to him if he’s not willing to see me at the drop of a hat, as I would do for him.
I really love him and can’t imagine my life without him but when he declines the invitation to come over because it “wasn’t planned” it really gives me a vibe that he doesn’t love me to the same degree.
I do socially depend on him, as he’s not only my boyfriend but a best friend. We live on opposite sides of the city though (not far, but not exactly close either)
What would you suggest be done to fix this issue, could it be the result of an underlying issue? Is it a fault on my part expecting too much of his time or on his for not giving me the expected amount of attention for the length of our relationship?
