Your mind is reeling because after four years with your boyfriend, you’ve found out that he’s betrayed you and you’re not sure where that betrayal ends, if it ends, and what those four years actually mean any more. This new guy is not a real option for you. He’s a distraction from your problem: your current relationship.
I don’t know how old you are, but I’m guessing that you’re looking for a long-term relationship that leads to marriage. And if that’s the case, it’s important to keep your eye on the ball. I know you’re afraid of being alone (because you haven’t broken up with your boyfriend, and you’re considering a Mr. Right Now so you can move from one relationship to another), but my advice is to face your fears — and overcome them. Your boyfriend is not happy in the relationship with you, so he’s gone outside of it. These betrayals don’t happen in a vacuum, so either you’ve ignored who he is (if he’s always been a cheater) or you’ve been unaware of his dissatisfaction with just you. If you want to stay in the relationship, then you have to work on it. And if you want to leave the relationship, then you need to do so. If you do, then be single. Don’t jump into something else just to alleviate the hurt of a break up. Break ups are supposed to hurt, and there is no short cut for that pain. But the upside of breaking up is that you have an opportunity to learn from what happened and figure out what your part in the failed relationship was, so you can be more successful next time. 😉 I hope that helps!
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