You have to try to understand that men and women aren’t friends. And when you hook up with a man you think is your friend — it’s not friends having sex, because real friends don’t have sex with each other. In a nutshell, here’s who has sex: Men and women who are sexually attracted to each other have sex together; when one person has low self esteem, they have sex together; when one person is more lonely than interested in a long term relationship, they have sex together; or when they’re romantically involved, they have sex together. A real friend isn’t interested in sex with you — or vice versa. And even if you don’t believe me, know this: having sex with a man changes things. You will feel attached to him, and if you’re not dating him, you’ll try to leverage that sex into love and a relationship. You’ll stop seeing yourself as single and you’ll stop being open to meeting someone who really wants a real relationship with you because you’re hooked on the sex you had with someone who’s not your Mr. Right. 😳
What happened is that you were having a tough time. You didn’t tell me what that tough time was about. But instead of dealing with your problem — you tried to distract yourself or dilute that problem by having sex with this guy. My advice is that you go back to the tough time you were having and address it. That’s where your issue really is.
As for this guy — he’s actually got character and doesn’t want to degrade you by having sex with you when he’s not interested in a relationship with you. 😉
I hope that helps. Read it twice. 😉
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