[Anonymous]

hi, my boyfriend and me have been together 7 1/2 monthes, i love him dearly..we’ve known of each other for 15 years and finally reconnected..i have a few issuses i go through with him on a daily basis, for one he doenst have a job…he began living with me from the begining and has not worked at all since we started…we used to live in ny and now we live in florida and still he has no job…wat do i do about that…

the other thing i have the biggest problem with is, my boyfriend doesnt kiss me…i mean he gives me peck kisses here and there but he never at all gives me french kisses…he used to in the beginning of the relationship and slowly is just stopped…i miss that part of him, i mean i feel kissing is something very emotional and heartfelt..does this mean that because he doesnt kiss me he has no emotional attachment to me 🙁 …i feel emotionaly deprived because he doesnt kiss me, when we have sex, he just immidiately tells me to put the condem on and lets go, he doesnt do four play in order to get my body ready 🙁 , hes very selfish and is just always about him….i feel as though im always giving, giving, giving and im never receiving back all that i give.. 😥 i need help wat do i do….

deprived

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you’re with someone who is so selfish, why stay? 😯 It doesn’t make any sense. Why would you date someone with no job and have him live with you from the beginning so you can take care of him? 😕 Then to add insult to injury, he’s bad in bed. 🙄

What is it about him that is keeping you in the game?!

Since you say you’ve known him for 15 years, has he changed since then or has he always been like this?

What is it about you that wants to be with someone who doesn’t give and isn’t generous?

I hope these questions help you understand why you’re better off without him. You should read my book, Think & Date Like A Man, to understand how to hone your idea of who Mr. Right is, and figure out how to get him — and keep him! Here’s the link where you can buy the book immediately as an automatic download: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. You can also buy it at Barnes & Noble or Amazon. 😀

[Anonymous]

i really love him and i used to know why, but honestly now i really don’t know…he’s not bad in bed he just doesn’t take his time, he just wants to get to it without doing any kind of four play u know…and like i said he doesnt kiss me that often, he just pecks me in the lips and that’s it, he says that we’re to old to french kiss and that its for younger kids to do…mind you were in our late 20’s…all he does is sleep and play video games all day and night and god forbid if i ask him to do something he says he’ll do it wen he feels like it, he wont do it the moment i ask him…i never ask anything of him but to show me love and respect, and to actually go out with me and make memories of our relationship, because he never wants to go out and do anything because he says we have no money to go out, and i just want him to do what the man is supposed to do in the house u know….its like everything annoys him and aggravates him and pisses him off…could i be doing something wrong to make him feel that way?? i cant say that i feel beautiful or confident in me because he has never told me im beautiful, he says i look nice sometimes depending on what i wear but has never said im beautiful..he never wants to talk about anything serous like how he feels or how i feel, he says its hard for him to show his emotions and to be affectionate because hes just not that way…i have two boys and my youngest one (14 mon), my boyfriends been in the babys life since he was 7 mon and now being over a year obviously the baby is gonna know him as his father, since his real father is not in the picture. and it would really kill me if i walked away knowing the baby only knows him as his father and he will be hurt not having him around u know…do you think that couples therapy would help our relationship?? and thats if hes even willing to go, if not do you think there is someone that can come into my environment to help us out…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re making a huge mistake by staying with this guy. Your children deserve a step-father who treats their mother a LOT better than this. 😳 And if you think that a man who doesn’t believe in foreplay or french kissing is good in bed, you need to get out more often! 😕 This guy is a loser, and you need to get rid of him, focus on raising your sons, and read Think & Date Like A Man, so that you can understand what Mr. Right looks like — so you can find, get and keep him. This guy you’re with now needs to take a hike, but he won’t unless you show him the door. I hope you will.

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