[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating this girl for the past three weeks or so and when we get intimate, I feel like I wont let myself get turned on by her.

About 5 months ago I got out of a six year relationship with someone I loved a lot. I’m not sure if it’s that I wont allow myself to begin developing intimate feelings again for someone else guilt free or that I have left over feelings still from my last relationship that is making me feel guilty.

I do care about this person and I want to allow myself to have feelings for her. I feel I am ready to move on.

[Ask April Masini]

It sounds like you may be rushing sex. If you’re not ready to let go of your last six year relationship, then allow yourself the time to get over that ex. I know you’ve been dating this new woman for three weeks, but if you give it some more time before having sex, you may find that she’s not just a rebound, and is actually someone you genuinely care for and want to get to know — in every way. On the other hand, if after a while more of dating her, you’re still not attracted, then chalk it off to an incompatibility in chemistry. It happens! 😆 Allow yourself to play the field if you find you need to, and wait for the right woman with whom sex won’t feel so forced.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go. And join me on Facebook. Here’s the link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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