[Sammieros3]

We met in January when I came to my friend s school for this semester. We met through her because they were pretty good friends. He told me he liked me after a month of knowing me so I said I felt like I didn t know him well enough to date him yet. Time went on and we became best friends. He s such a nice guy and he cares so much. In March, I realized that I loved him but I had no idea if he had the same feelings for me. some of my other friends said he liked me and things he did for me, he would never do for anyone else.Idk if that was our closeness or what. He started dating this other girl but he still cared about me a lot. He told me I m beautiful and to never think different. Time went by and he still told me those same words 2 or 3 times this month. He has been there for me when things got bad with my family. Now, my friend and him have been fighting and they are tellling me to tell eachother things.(to tell him or her things for them) it got ridiculous and I realized I had to make a decision. I told myself I didn t need him in my life so I told him I don t think we can be friends. He immediately questioned what had he done and after everything he has done for me. He said if this is really what I want he’ll leave me alone. It felt right at first but now I want to change everything.bi wish I never said what I said. I think I broke his heart. We were really close and now I feel terrible. I loved him.. I only broke the friendship because it was really hard being friends with both of them. Did he like me? I feel like we just broke up even though we weren t dating. Im heartbroken. Do I tell him it was a mistake? Do you think he will ever reach out to me again?

[AskApril Masini]

First of all, it will help you if you can get over the idea that you’re friends. You’re not. Friends don’t fall in love with each and want to date each other. That’s different. It’s romance. So if you can understand the difference between friends and romance, you’ll have an easier time understanding that you’re not friends and you can’t be. That will simplify a lot for you!

Second, decide if you want to date him or not. If you do, then flirt with him and let him know you made a mistake in cutting off with him because you didn’t want to be in the middle. But don’t go back to the friend zone. With your actions, make it clear you’re interested in dating.

And third, if rejection comes, accept it and move on. Life will be less chaotic and stressful for you, and you’ll be open to dating someone else because you won’t be in a complex friend zone with a guy you like as more than a friend. 😉

I hope that helps!

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