[Ivonne23]

I met this guy and we hit it off for a week texted every day all day. We ended up meeting one day before our set up date night. We have the same friends and we where ok with that and letting people know we were at that level. Well, that night we were together we had sex. I asked ” Is this too fast” and is this going to ruin our date tomorrow. He said no. He slept over and things where fine in the morning we had sex again. But after he left we made plans to stay at his house and then he canceled and he texts where very seldom. I told him I hope is not because we had sex too fast I wanted to wait. He says no and that he was just tired. The next day no texts. I starts to feel like this is the case and I apologized for asking the sex thing and he says nothing. The I said I feel this is the issue and it sucks to go from texting all day to sex to silence. As a girls it feels kind of sucky. He says that he did not regret what happened and wanted to see me again. But no talk or text. By the forth day I feel confused at the sudden change I said I was sorry again if it got turned into a big deal and I was willing to talk about it. He tells me that he did feel that it was made into a big deal but that he wants to hang out again. He just felt overwhelmed. I him I would give his space. After that he tells me that he needed to reiterate that he liked me and he wanted to hang out for sure. I said I felt the same way and left it there. is been a week and I haven’t heard a thing. I keep playing this in y head and feel so lost. I don’t want to text because I don’t want hi to think I am crazy. But the actions do not match the words. Should I keep waiting or is he not into me?

[Ivonne23]

Please can someone help

[AskApril Masini]

Men like the chase. It sounds corny, but it’s true, and if you sleep with them too soon you take the opportunity for them to chase you, away. Instead of making him feel like he won you over, you made it very easy for him and he isn’t interested any more. I’m sorry, but that’s what’s happened. The reality is guys want a woman who makes them work for it, and when you have sex too soon, they wonder if you do this all the time, and if they’re really special at all to you.

For future, wait. I don’t know how old you are, but it sounds like this is part of your learning curve in dating. As for this guy, I don’t think he’s interested in you except to have sex with. When a guy really likes you, he’ll want to date you, make you feel special, put you on a pedestal and show you off. I think you should accept that this didn’t work out, learn from it and move on to better relationships.

Let me know if you have any other questions.

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